What is your biggest regret?

[morningsun78]

Curious

Having 2 abortions in my 30’s. I don’t know what I was thinking. It’s completely ruined my life. If I didn’t have other children to look after I’d kill myself.

Not leaving my first long time boyfriend earlier, I lost a few years unnecessarily. Not buying out my brothers part of our parents' large flat, choosing the wrong uni career. That´s basically it.

Not owning more dogs and horses.

Not prosecuting my xh for abuse.

Learning how to cope with my eating disorder.

Not giving my little girl my surname.

Having an abortion aged 23. But more than that was my behaviour that led to me getting pregnant in the first place. I'm now childless and in my 40s and I've never ever forgiven myself. I'm having therapy again at the moment.

Leaving it until my late 30s to have a child on my own (I'm a solo mother by choice and luckily conceived with IVF and a sperm donor). Not leaving som relationships sooner.

Abortion as a teenager. Didn't tell anyone other than my boyfriend, didn't think we'd have any support. In reality, I think we would have but we were scared. Thought about it every day for the past 20 years.

Allowing other people (mainly my mother) to tell me who I am rather than being confident in knowing myself. It's only in my 40s that I am really learning what makes me tick but it feels a bit late to be starting a new career now.

I was knocked over by a car when I was nine. My biggest regret is that I survived.

That I never told him to stop.

Years later and what happened still has an effect on me.

It's a regret but not a regret?

I sort of wish I had told A that I was in love with him. Although I sort of think that he might have known as he cut contact with me unexpectedly.

On the other hand if I had got together with him I wouldn't have met my amazing husband and had my 2 beautiful girls with him.

Swings and roundabouts.

@Oldtiredfedup

Getting in the plane at 20 weeks pregnant with my non-National husband. Things would have been very different if I’d have trusted my gut.

Hope things turned out ok in the end?

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation

I was knocked over by a car when I was nine. My biggest regret is that I survived.

This made me hope this regret has changed?

Not sorting out my mental health when I was still young. So many years wasted and it's affected everything. Breaking up with my first love. I don't think I'll ever love someone so much.

Not taking a specific call.

Being too worried about pleasing my mother at the detriment of my own needs/ wants.

Not scuba diving on the Barrier Reef

@RonaldMcDonald

Not scuba diving on the Barrier Reef

You could still do that! It’s very nice.

None really, because although I've fucked up many times in my life, it's brought me here. Which is exactly where I'm meant to be.

The one I do have is overplucking my eyebrows in the noughties. Sorted with a fringe though.

Marrying my ex and then staying as long as I did.

Believing my parents when they said I was lazy, selfish, stupid and ignorant. Best part of forty years allowing people to bully and treat me like dirt because I thought I was worthless.

Sadly right now it’s becoming a mother

@sugarhockeyicedtea

That I never told him to stop.

Years later and what happened still has an effect on me.

So many sad posts, but @sugarhockeyicedtea - whatever happened, it was not your fault. It really wasn't.