Who wants to interpret my weird dream?

[iklboo]

Light-hearted. Winner may or may not get a Hubba Bubba of their choice (may not is more likely).

Background - it's mum's wake next Sunday. I'm a very lucid dreamer and always remember them. I can change them if I don't like them.

So. The dream:

I decided to have a raffle at mum's wake so went to pick some prizes. I wanted to get Easter eggs but the shops all had Xmas stuff in, which annoyed me. I ended up buying tins of Danish butter cookies, a musical Santa and giant cracker full of chocolate.

On the way home I saw an owl carrying a raccoon. The raccoon was holding a red & white striped box of pick n mix. The owl dropped the raccoon into a bin.

Then I went into a downstairs bar where there was a school reunion. Not my school and nobody would let me buy a drink. I left to get an Uber and a friend who ghosted me was behind the wheel. She said good morning & drove off.

I phoned DH to come & pick me up. We went into a deli & bought some pies. Steve Pemberton was running the charity shop next door. On the way to the car my handbag strap snapped and I had to carry it in my arms.

Mum then face timed me (which she never did) to show me the pedal car she'd bought to get around in.

Any thoughts?

In a word, no.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum. I really wouldn't read anything into this dream though. It all sounds very random.

@Squiff70 - thank you. I don't want a 'real' interpretation if you know what I mean? Something silly. Well, given the bloody dream it can't be anything sane can it? 😂

I think it's that you are still happy in live despite the recent loss but there's some conflict there over whether you're allowed to be happy or not. You feel like society or the community around you is forcing you to be full of seriousness and grief and to be thinking of the past when you're mum was around but you're more willing to be in the present moment with lots of spontaneity and randomness. It could be that your mum's death has woken you up to wanting to live more.
That's what I get from all the different random things and your annoyance at Christmas and not being allowed to have a drink and have fun and then bumping into the past.
Forgive me if I'm wrong, it's just my take on it.

*life, not live

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum.

My take would be that your mind is expressing the wish that your mum was still with you, and underlining that she is still with you in spirit.

You went to buy Easter things - which we are coming up to, without your mum - but you found Christmas things, representative of a time when your mum was still there. Similarly, the school reunion and your former friend represent childhood or past eras when your mum was there with you - and finally, your mum face-timed you, which wasn't something she ever did, but symbolises the idea of her still being there in your life.

The raccoon going in the bin and handbag snapping perhaps symbolise the idea that you are carrying a weight you want to get rid of - perhaps a responsibility, or a burden related to the bereavement you have suffered.

Wow. Thank you both for these. A lot of what you have said is pretty spot on, actually.

I also think going downstairs to the school reunion represents the past. Do you have concerns about seeing long lost relatives/friends of you mum at the wake?

There's a lot of busyness and organising in your dream but things aren't quite going as they should which could indicate worry/anxiety about everything you have to do. Carrying your bag also could signify carrying a burden.

Positive aspects are that DH could be relied on (hopefully the same in real life) and that you feel that even though your mum is elsewhere she's doing OK as she's sent a reassuring message. Could the pedal car indicate a journey?

I'm stumped with the owl and raccoon though!

I think the owl represents your wiser self and the racoon is the bit of you that likes nice sweets and chocolates, and the owl sticking the racoon in the bin is a way of telling you to take better care of yourself and moderate your inner racoon a little bit.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum. I'm quite a lucid dreamer too! The rest of the dream, things like your handbag strap breaking and trying to buy a drink or get a ride and not being able to makes me wonder if you are feeling alone and unsupported, only being able to rely on your DH because all other avenues feel closed down right now.

My condolences 💐

Is it a BigJ dream; you’re thinking subconsciously about the after life? Easter is the death & resurrection but it was Christmas, birth. The rest anecdotes of the full life you’ve lived together. Finished off with a message of love and comfort.

Hugs to you @ikleboo. Today is the second anniversary of my Dad’s death, we couldn’t have a funeral and wake, I’m remembering in my own way with lego. I hope your Mum’s wake is full of life, laughter and meaning.

In, I hope, the spirit of Madame Arcati intended I’d like to offer a dream interpretation.

Going a paragraph at a time looking at underlying themes:

First, Chance, Generosity, Frustration, Compromise.

Then the Owl representing Wisdom, the raccoon representing All or Nothing thinking.

Invoking the Past but it is Another Country. The Present, temporarily Reprieved, offers Hope of Escape. For a moment Confusion. The Mirror of Mortality has two sides but which side are you on? (taxi partition but is it you or the driver that is the ghost?)

Gathering the Clan brings Progress and Preparation for the Hospitality of Rememberance. Public Recognition, Legacy and Thrift are acknowledged. A Tie to the Past breaks but nothing is Lost. All that is precious can be carried forward into the Future.

The Beloved Mother is Revealed in New Pastures. Her Journey continues through your Dream Manifestation in Transports of Delight.

Which interpreted is :

You will find a way through despite obstacles. Wisdom tells you that not everything in black and white makes sense so you can safely abandon trying to please everyone.

You don’t need to be guided by past experiences or present problems. Family support will enable you to do all that is necessary leaving larger issues to one side for the moment.

Although it seems as though a relationship which held you up is broken in reality you have the capacity to go forward carrying the same burdens and blessings although it will be a little harder, less carefree and convenient.

Your Mother, in your conscious and subconscious worlds, is still available to you but in a completely new way. Finding her in yourself may lead to new horizons and adventures that you are able to arrive at through your own efforts.

Written with love and lightness 🌈🌷🌷🌷♥️

DH is absolutely my rock & comfort through this. He's been amazing. I'm an only child so have had to do all the admin & organising myself - dad also died on 23 December and I don't think I got time to grieve properly for him before mum died.

I have been worrying about the wake - will people come? Will the food be OK? Will MIL & FIL manage to be in the same room without making snarky comments at each other (they've been divorced nearly 40 years FFS).

We've been clearing out the house which has stirred a lot of memories up, finding photos etc. Including school photos & some of my ex-friend.

And I'm definitely not looking after myself properly. Grabbing quick food rather than cooking.

Thank you too @Neome. I'm sorry for your loss and that you couldn't have a funeral or wake for your dad. That must have been hard.

@Squiff70

In a word, no.

I'm sorry for the loss of your mum. I really wouldn't read anything into this dream though. It all sounds very random.

I think it's interesting. A raffle really could symbolise chance, and uncertainty, but chance, and hope. You may win something but nothing can be taken away from you so a raffle in your dream wouldn't seem to be about loss. I'd see this as signifying that you're dealing with uncertainty in a positive way. The grief isn't pulling you under. Apologies if that sounds like trite bullshit.

Christmas and Easter being noted in your dream, I guess that's normal to be aware of your mother's absence more and to associate family with occasions .

An owl seems wise to me. A racoon? Dangerous? Unknown? But the owl dealt with the racoon.

Pick and mix, again, like the raffle there's a sort of who knows what comes next but I'll deal with it feel.

The bit about the school reunion being in the basement and nobody would let you buy you a drink, that sounds like you're really connected to your past still. Even the friend who ghosted you drove you somewhere in your dream. You harbour no grudges, in your dream anything is possible. And you're grounded enough and content enough to deal with what's coming.

ps,,when I say connected to your past, I really mean at peace with it.

I think the owl and the raccoon refer to seasons and being out of place - so does the reunion. Your mum went too soon and you’re not ready to step up into the next line of secession that she has vacated for you. You’re supported by your consort though!

ps no idea who steve pemberton is. But the strap on your handbag snapping is really interesting.

I often used to dream I'd lost my handbag. Classic identity and security dream. Who am I? Am I safe?

And you didn't lose your handbag. The strap broke, that's a shift in the ground beneath you, but you still have your sense of your self. You're still safe, you still got YOU.

Also, the image of you carrying the bag in your arms, that's really symbolic when you know that handbag dreams are all about security, safety and Identity. You were holding yourself in your arms.

xx

I like making sense of my dreams too.

Handbags have always featured heavily in my dreams. For yeARs, losing them, they were stolen, I walked away from them....

Then when I finally got this house and felt financially secure in it, I had a dream I had a small blue leather bag and I opened it, and some humming birds flew out, they were beautiful and hovering like butterflies.

I woke up and thought, that's how beautiful and magical security and safety is to me after years of never knowing how long before I'd be evicted/asked to leave/the rent would go up.......

I don’t know if you were raised in the Christian tradition but if you were then Christmas and Easter are very significant dates. One having to do with the birth of the Christ child and the other in observance of his resurrection. As spiritual beings there is no death.

@SalsaLove - I'm pagan from a long line of pagans. The Easter / Christmas festivals are extremely important to us. Just without Jesus.