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Absolutely gutted I didn’t get a job :(

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 08/04/2022 20:15

Was approached by a recruitment agent on Linked In, role looked perfect for me, literally perfect. Everything I’m currently doing with the added benefit of same systems. Interviews went well…and then this even I get a text - not even a phone call! - to tell me sorry, they went with someone else, you don’t have enough experience with the system I specifically told them I already use

I’m really gutted. The job actually seemed good, I thought the interviews went well and it was a decent amount of money.

It’s not to be, but I’m so upset.

That’s all really, trying not to cry and just needed to get it off my chest :(

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Happierthanever91 · 08/04/2022 20:23

I'm really sorry to hear that, it never feels great being turned down for a job. Especially when it's one you were really hoping for. Hopefully this just means something even better is due to come along soon

CountessOfSponheim · 08/04/2022 20:26

Years ago I had an interview for a job I really wanted, felt interviews had gone well, didn't get it. A couple of years later they had another vacancy (except this one was subtly different and even more up my street). I figured "what the heck", applied again, and got the job. Turns out they genuinely had liked me first time round and were happy I'd reapplied.

Now I'm very happy there and, barring something unexpected happening, I think I'll stay until retirement. The guy who got the job first time round is still there and TBH with hindsight I'd have given that first job to him too.

I suppose I'm trying to say that stuff like this sucks when it happens but isn't always the end. But it's okay to wallow for a bit.

Nelliephant1 · 08/04/2022 20:30

Something better is just around the corner. Hang in there and wait and see!

ToastofLandon · 08/04/2022 20:33

The job that's right for you won't be given to someone else by mistake. Hang in there.

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 08/04/2022 20:35

Thanks all, it does help to have some anonymous hand squeezes!

Tbh now I’m more determined to get a new job - I don’t dislike mine, it’s good money, flexible and very generous with benefits….I’m just bored. I can do my job standing on my head. But I can’t progress because I don’t manage anyone, and the next step up they won’t just look at my track record and give me a chance unfortunately.

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MargotMoon · 08/04/2022 20:39

That's rubbish, but just remember that you don't want to work for an organisation that can't even be bothered to phone you up anyway.

Toponeniceone · 08/04/2022 20:45

Years back I went for 2 interviews at different places which went well but I didn't get the jobs. Randomly out of the blue, not far apart, both jobs rang to see I was still interested. Turns out they'd been forced to give jobs to internal candidates who they didn't want, and sure enough they hadn't turned out. I definitely think it means that there's something else coming along.

Sunnytwobridges · 08/04/2022 20:49

Awww I'm sorry! But it will be okay. I've been there MANY times before. Think I killed the interview and didn't get the job. Competition is stiff but I always say if you didn't get this one it just wasn't right for you in some way. So hang in there it will happen.

rosegoldwatcher · 08/04/2022 20:58

Rejection is a hard pill to swallow.

In a teaching career spanning 35 years I 'aced' the interview for every job that I applied for - except one! I was very upset at the time but, with hindsight, I can see that I would not have been happy at that particular school. Within 4 months I saw, applied for and got a promoted post at a school which suited me far better.

Chalk this disappointment up to interview experience and move onwards. Your job will come.

WeDontTalkAboutBrunoNoNoNo · 08/04/2022 22:07

I can empathise. I got turned down for a job in January and I'm still gutted about it now!

MrsMurthystaxreturn · 08/04/2022 23:06

Sorry to hear it. You’ll feel better over time. Fwiw, I sobbed and sobbed when I didn’t get a job I could have done standing on my head. They had a weird interview system which threw me. Felt broken after it but submitted an application a month later and got the job, far more money and more interesting than the first. Don’t dwell on this - it’s their loss. You will find something!

ZeroCaffeine · 09/04/2022 02:30

That’s a shame but you’ll see in the future that it wasn’t for you

Bbub · 09/04/2022 03:10

Definitely extra annoying when you were approached for it out of the blue on linked in.

This happened to me recently and I just got ghosted after the interview (or so I thought, 2 months later they say we're still reviewing candidates 🤔) so although a text message is crap at least they let you know and you can move on.

Hopefully it was good experience/prep for the next interview which may end up being the right one.

numananumana · 09/04/2022 04:03

Sometimes there's someone lined up for the job, a current employee etc They go through the process then give it to the person they already know.

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 09/04/2022 11:49

@numananumana

Sometimes there's someone lined up for the job, a current employee etc They go through the process then give it to the person they already know.

The more I think about it, the more I think this must be the case. It just doesn’t make sense to say that my not being familiar with their systems would be ‘a challenge’ - even though I already use their systems in my current role

. Or maybe I’m just trying to soothe my bruised ego.

You’re all right though, and it is extra annoying that I was approached for it.

Ah well. Onwards and upwards.

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TedMullins · 09/04/2022 11:55

If it’s any consolation I’ve been rejected from all 4 jobs I’ve recently applied for! 2 were internal roles which it turned out had candidates already lined up, the third was external but appointed an internal candidate, the fourth, I dunno, maybe I was just crap? It’s the nature of job hunting. I don’t know anyone who’s got every job they ever applied for (even if these people do exist, it must mean others are getting rejected so they can get the job!) it is doubly annoying that they approached you, and weird, but I’d just chalk it up to life.

ToastedCrumpetwithCheese · 09/04/2022 13:42

@numananumana

Sometimes there's someone lined up for the job, a current employee etc They go through the process then give it to the person they already know.

I agree with this. I was the internal employee in this situation but the appointment rules were that the post had to be externally advertised. It seemed really unfair on the candidates being interviewed and who had spent time preparing. I got the job.

Babyroobs · 09/04/2022 14:28

I have been rejected for a few recently and was upset. I have also not even been notified that I wasn't successful and only found out when i saw the job re-advertised a few weeks later. It is hurtful. I just try to remind myself not to take it personally and that whilst there is another person who got the job there are also perhaps another six or seven ( depending how many shortlisted), who are feeling exactly the same as you. and were rejected. It helps me keep things in perspective. Good luck with your future job hunting.

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