DNA testing without the other person knowing?

[Friedappletart]

I strongly suspect my dm isn't my bio dm. Can you get dna tests done on a hair sample? Does having dyed hair rule this out? What about toothbrush comparison (for cheek cells).

Have you seen your birth certificate?

No you can’t. But you don’t need your DM to test. If you test yourself on ancestry it will link you to their database and through your matches you can work out if you connect to her side. Do you have any other relatives on her side that would do an ancestry test?

Yes I have my birth certificate, it has her name on it. There is no one else I can test with.

I have been told by a 3rd party my df had an affair & I'm the product of it. Suddenly everything makes sense. I look nothing like my mother.

If her name is on the birth certificate why do you think its false, could you trace your birth record instead.

If you use the ancestry site and your bm has other dc /relatives you may find matches there. Then you can take your findings to your dm...

Who is this 3rd party who is trying to stir trouble? DNA tests are costly and you usually have to do cheek swabs. It seems unethical to test someone's dna without their knowledge.

It’s all a bit Mills and Boone isn’t it?

If this was true the woman who had an affair with your father willingly agreed to handover her baby to another woman to raise as her own not to mention the wife how to forgive the affair and raise somebody else’s child!

It’s sounds a bit far fetched to me but if it’s upsetting you then you should ask the shit stirrer for names and concrete evidence rather than just heresay.

Sorry for errors I use the voice recorder and sometimes pressed send too soon.

Have you asked your parents who your bm is

Why don't you buy two DNA Ancestry kits, one for you and one for your DM and ask her to take the test with you. See what she says? I look nothing like my mum at all but she is my mum...

@whattodo2019

Why don't you buy two DNA Ancestry kits, one for you and one for your DM and ask her to take the test with you. See what she says? I look nothing like my mum at all but she is my mum...

If she's not her DM then the answer will be no

I was born outside the UK & haven't been able to trace any birth records. The hospital I was born in was demolished years ago and I've had no success tracing any further information that way.

I would say no to anyone asking me to do an ancestry as well. Not because I have anything to hide but because I don't want that information out there. So asking someone to do a test and getting a no is hardly conclusive.

@Friedappletart

Yes I have my birth certificate, it has her name on it. There is no one else I can test with.

You can test yourself and still get matches even if nobody else you know tests. It would help if you can do a rough family tree for her first with as many cousins aunts etc included to help you with matches but it can be done. It’s how we worked out who my Dad’s father was without anyone else testing.

I know a woman who is raising a child from her husband's affair,but the child knows and has always known shes not birth mum.

@ElenaSt

It’s all a bit Mills and Boone isn’t it?

If this was true the woman who had an affair with your father willingly agreed to handover her baby to another woman to raise as her own not to mention the wife how to forgive the affair and raise somebody else’s child!

It’s sounds a bit far fetched to me but if it’s upsetting you then you should ask the shit stirrer for names and concrete evidence rather than just heresay.

There's nothing to say I was willingly handed over.

It’s a criminal offence in the U.K. to test someone’s DNA without their consent and no lab will do it.

What will you do if you discover your mother who loved you and bought you up is not your bm. Are there health problems you want to investigate further.