DD6 Hitting me!

[DDAdvice]

Hello,

I am wondering if anyone has any advice. I have two older children and one younger (6). For the past few weeks my DD has started hitting me when she’s angry/frustrated, sometimes she will say, she hates me. How do I handle this, at the moment I tell her not to hit me because hitting hurts people but she still does this.

Any advice

Thank you.

Does she hit anyone else? Impulse control can be tricky for dc, but 6 is plenty old enough for most nt dc to know not to hit.

Personally I'd be doing a time out or loss of privileges every time, and I'm usually quite anti punishment. Not being violent is an important rule.

She's allowed to hit you just don't retaliate or you'll be breaking the law. Probably best to just move away and go into a different room.

She has never hit anyone else, in fact when she was hit at preschool by a boy, she never retaliated. She is also a very caring girl, she makes things at home for her friends and always kisses and cuddles me.
I don’t allow her to hit me and I never, ever retaliate, most of the time she will stop but then she will do it again in the same day. She does have some developmental delays with her speech, sometimes she will find it hard to find the words to say what she needs and it causes frustration for her.

@ImJustNotMeAnymore

She's allowed to hit you just don't retaliate or you'll be breaking the law. Probably best to just move away and go into a different room.

I'm not sure what this means? I think most parents would use reasonable discipline to help their dc rather that "retaliation".

@ImJustNotMeAnymore shes only allowed to hit if the OP doesn't stop her
There are other ways which don't involve hitting back
There should be consequences for hitting as their will be at school or elsewhere and they need to know its not ok

What consequences to you give for hitting other than saying it hurts ?

It's interesting that she only hits you. This suggests one of two things: either she is harbouring particular resentment/anger towards you, OR you are her safe person, the one she feels she can take things out on without fear of alienation or rejection. Has anything big been happening in life or school recently, any major changes? What's she like at school? Perhaps she is starting to feel the difference re language levels between her and her peers a bit more at her age?