Memory loss

[Lbasc]

Hi
I’ve been a father for 6 weeks and it’s has been an emotional journey. With lots of ups and downs but I’m trying my best. The one thing I have noticed however is a loss or struggle with my memory especially when it comes to the evening. Im struggling to remember being awake if woken, struggling to remember conversations too. Last night I had completely forgotten I was awake with my partner and it seems to be getting worse. Im not sure if this is a normal thing, potentially! I have a lot running through my brain all throughout the day and it seems when I get home from work anything at home seems a big blur. I don’t know if I’m just exhausted in the evenings and when I am woken up to help my partner I’m just too tired to remember. Has anyone else experienced it? At the moment a lot in life just seems a blur…..

@Lbasc
Oh bless you - it sounds like total exhaustion to be honest - both myself and my kids dad were like it with both of ours. It is emotional and babies don't come with a manual - it can all seem a little overwhelming at times. Hopefully as time goes on it'll get easier but I would definately speak to the health visitor and get some advice just about routines etc....
my friend who'd already had 2 also helped me practically at home by getting organised with

• meal planning especially batch cooking to make things easier
• having a changing station both upstairs and downstairs with everything to hand
• only agreeing to one lot of visitors per day and limiting time to a couple of hours - that can get a

Bit much a constant flow of people especially with health visitors coming/ going aswell

If your still not feeling great I'd also speak to your GP - please don't be afraid to ask for help. I had awful postnatal depression after having My first dd and I felt dreadful but my GP and my HV were brilliant and got me some support

Sending big virtual hugs 🤗