DP is at home on annual leave, I got up at 5am for work. He didn’t reply to my message until 9:30am so I’m guessing that’s when he got up. the house was tidy before I went to bed last night and I put the washing on the radiators before work today and wiped around the sides in the kitchen out of habit.
When I got in tonight I sat down on the sofa to be met with “it’s alright for some, I’ve not stopped all day” I’m in such a bad mood now.
I usually get home an hour and half before him (I set off to work an hour and half before him though), in that time I do general housework and prepare tea 4 out of 5 nights. After his comment I asked what needs doing and he said all of the washing is on the bed. I came up to put it away and realised there was one T-shirt of mine and the rest is his. There was the washing I had washed and put to dry before work and a second load of his pants. Normally I would put it away but tonight I decided not to and instead went down and said I thought you meant it was my washing to put away I didn’t realise you were just warning me you hadn’t had chance to put yours away. He huffed and came upstairs to do it. Meanwhile I hoovered all of downstairs and put the washing up away (only things he had used while I was at work)
I’ve come to bed because I’m up early tomorrow and he has just said to me “I don’t know how you are so tired, I’ve been running around all day” I’ve blown my lid. All of the tasks he has done today have been what I do most evenings after work, nothing out of the ordinary. We do the same job, he always complains he is tired after it, why can’t I be?