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Parcel for neighbour but they're not answering door

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 14:41

Took in a delivery for next door neighbour on Friday and DH saw postman put a card through their letterbox.

Three days later and it must be a rubbish delivery as they've still not came for it. We've knocked a few times (when cars have been on the drive) but no answer so we still have the parcel.

DH tried again this morning and no answer again but car moved at some point before lunch so someone must be around. No previous issues with neighbours as we both pretty much keep ourselves to ourselves.

Not brave enough for AIBU but what would you do? The sight of the parcel is starting to piss me off

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MintyMoocow · 04/04/2022 15:27

Unless it’s an anti-tank gun or a gazebo or something, surely it can’t be taking up that much room. Why waste mental space on it, they’ll pick it up sometime?
It’s really not worth making an enemy over, no wonder so many MNers have issues with their neighbours.

IncompleteSenten · 04/04/2022 15:28

Put a note through their door saying (in a tactful way) come get your parcel by tonight or I'll leave it on your doorstep in the morning.

HalloHello · 04/04/2022 15:28

I would just wait until they came to collect. Hardly a hardship having a parcel on the side, or on the stairs or whatever.

Latenightreader · 04/04/2022 15:32

Definitely leave a note. I once had a neighbour confront me because I hadn't collected a parcel, but I'd never had a card through the door, and had actually reported the parcel as missing. They had been knocking for three weeks but never put a note through the door (if they had I'd have got it straight away).

My Dad had a parcel card slide under a piece of furniture once, and I've had cards without (or with incorrect) house numbers, so even if a card went in it may not have given them info.

Or they could be lazy...

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 15:33

I'm really not about to start a war with my neighbour over a parcel.

No, it's not taking up a lot of room. Yes, I could put it somewhere out of sight. And yes, I get that everyone isn't bothered about every delivery they get.

I'm sure most people base their reaction to things on how they'd handle something so, based on that, I'd have collected it by now but I wondered what other people would do.

Everything on mumsnet is so serious these days

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 15:34

Thanks for the helpful suggestions though. I'll see if I can catch one of them or leave a note.

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MindPalace · 04/04/2022 15:37

Is it from the Friday just gone? I wouldn’t be bothered yet.

AnxiousHeffalump · 04/04/2022 15:45

Maybe they’re unwell, and the car moved for a trip to the chemist or something. I’d leave it another day or so before doing anything else.

Nanny0gg · 04/04/2022 15:48

@Jobotheclown

A note is a good idea. I just don't get someone ordering something and not being arsed about getting it. I'm waiting for a delivery from the second I get the dispatched email.

Leave on doorstep (or hidden spot) with note through the door.

'We're not a storage facility'

DameHelena · 04/04/2022 15:58

I once inadvertently didn't collect a parcel at a neighbour's for days on end as the delivery guy didn't post me a note to say he'd left it elsewhere. Didn't realise until it occurred to me that it'd been ages since I ordered it, and looked up its progress.
So it might be that. Or they might not be arsed. Either way, leave it on the doorstep (weigh it down if it might blow away) or if you're feeling arsier, return it to sender.

AHungryCaterpillar · 04/04/2022 16:05

@DameHelena

I once inadvertently didn't collect a parcel at a neighbour's for days on end as the delivery guy didn't post me a note to say he'd left it elsewhere. Didn't realise until it occurred to me that it'd been ages since I ordered it, and looked up its progress. So it might be that. Or they might not be arsed. Either way, leave it on the doorstep (weigh it down if it might blow away) or if you're feeling arsier, return it to sender.

She said her DH saw them post a card through

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 04/04/2022 16:06

They must be Mumsnetters as no-one on here ever seems to answer the door.

GreenOrangePear · 04/04/2022 16:09

Put a note through the door.

Just because there is a card doesn't mean it says where the parcel is... I've had very helpful blank ones which don't even tell you who the parcel was for.

Or maybe they have just been out most of the weekend and are working.

I'd give them the benefit of the doubt. It's not that long to have a parcel.

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 16:10

All solved. Despite the postman asking DH if he'd take the parcel then going next door to presumably post a card through saying he was leaving it with us, turns out he bloody hadn't.

Just caught neighbour and he had no idea and thought we were just being nice and giving him something .

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 16:12

I do still pettily maintain that you should collect parcels from neighbours as soon as practical though

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AHungryCaterpillar · 04/04/2022 16:19

Maybe they saw this thread? They would say a card wasn’t left 😂 this is still a reason why I don’t take in parcels as you can’t trust that a card will actually be left. I don’t have time to chase people

chisanunian · 04/04/2022 16:26

@Jobotheclown

I'd prefer just leaving it out for them as it's in a waterproof bag but front door is in full view of the street and it's pretty windy so wouldn't be surprised if it blew away.

I am glad it's not a dining table though

DH once said yes to a delivery driver about taking in a parcel for NDN as they often take in ours.

Didn't expect it to be an entire flat pack patio set though, and there were several massive heavy boxes and a giant parasol. Why on Earth he didn't change his mind and say no as soon as he realised how much there was I have no idea. We had it in our living room for days, because NDN was away for the weekend.

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Jobotheclown · 04/04/2022 16:29

@AHungryCaterpillar possibly! He did say he wasn't even expecting a delivery which is something I'd say trying to bluff my way out of something .

A patio set would be a definite no but it can be hard to say no when you've already said yes. Sometimes it's worth angering the delivery person.

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katicomps · 04/04/2022 16:33

I'd try once more then send it back. You don't need this nonsense and they'd think twice about doing it again.
If you act the mug, you get mugged off!

Genegenieee · 04/04/2022 20:34

@katicomps

I'd try once more then send it back. You don't need this nonsense and they'd think twice about doing it again. If you act the mug, you get mugged off!

Try what? OP said in previous posts NDN has parcel? RTT

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