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Hamper ideas for someone I've infected?

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Creams0da · 03/04/2022 23:42

I've inadvertently infected someone (in mid 60s) with Covid. I had no symptoms when I met her, had a negative LFT an hour before, but tested positive the next day after developing a scratchy throat. She's just tested positive and has full on cold symptoms. I'm feeling terrible, literally my worst scenario. I've been OCD about not catching/infecting others for two years. (Although I know there's ultimately very little you can do to avoid this virus forever).

She lives alone and I'd like to send her a nice hamper but seems like options online are very limited? I don't want to send a generic box of shortbreads, jam and English breakfast tea. She's quite classy. Any suggestions?

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Fivemoreminutes1 · 04/04/2022 05:50

That’s a lovely idea. How much do you want to spend?

ChickpeaPie · 04/04/2022 05:51

How do you know she got it from you? Could have been from anywhere. Don’t feel bad!

Roselilly36 · 04/04/2022 07:26

It’s a lovely thought, but would you usually send a friend a hamper, if you inadvertently gave them a cold.

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marcopront · 04/04/2022 07:35

How do you know she didn't give it to you?

MsTSwift · 04/04/2022 07:37

Think it’s takes longer than that to develop she likely got it somewhere else so I wouldn’t beat yourself up about it.

chesterelly1 · 04/04/2022 07:41

It's a nice idea but depending on her symptoms food, no matter how lovely might be last thing she wants right now. I had it a month ago and to begin with couldn't face eating then when I tried nothing tasted right. What about flowers and a couple of magazines instead if you really need to assuage your guilt? Tbh a simple sorry would be enough for me, Covid is here to stay, we are going to have to start treating it like we are passing on a cold, not the plague.

StripeyDeckchair · 04/04/2022 08:49

I've got covid at the moment
Days 1-4 I had no appetite and no interest in food or drinks. I ate 1 small meal a day because I thought should & only drank water.

So maybe not a hamper(yet)

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Creams0da · 04/04/2022 10:04

@Roselilly36

It’s a lovely thought, but would you usually send a friend a hamper, if you inadvertently gave them a cold.
Because she's just a great friend, lives alone, doesn't have much family, and finds isolating hard. Also has been very worried about catching Covid since her very well, 88yo mother died from it in late 2020. Plus she made me a lovely lunch and cake when I infected her - I got a nice lunch, she got Covid!
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MsTSwift · 04/04/2022 10:10

It’s a lovely thing to do anyway but don’t think you need to do it as penance!

Haus1234 · 04/04/2022 10:12

It’s literally everywhere right now OP, I get you feel guilty but she could easily have got it from the supermarket etc.

You tested. You did what you could and you were responsible. Don’t beat yourself up.

Lottie4 · 04/04/2022 10:17

You sound so kind, OP. You did all you could to reduce spread, so don't feel too bad.

Does she have anyone to do shopping for her? If not, just wondering if you could drop off a box (wrapped up) of essentials - when DH went down with covid, I went straight out and did a shop - the things that I wish I'd bought more of were fresh soups and ready meals as neither of us were up to cooking properly for six days. Things like that alongside one or two easy veggies, fruits and definitely some biscuits - even if they don't fancy them right now, they can be enjoyed in a few days time. You could add a magazine/newspaper so she has something to read.

LittleDiaries · 04/04/2022 10:25

It took nearly a week after coming into contact with someone with covid, and two negative LFTs before I finally tested positive after developing a scratchy throat on day 6. It is very slow to show up.

MermaidEyes · 04/04/2022 10:29

I agree with a pp about making your own hamper. Include some nice food, like cake or biscuits, maybe something she likes to drink (soft drink or something alcoholic for when she's feeling better.) How about a nice candle, or some fancy soaps or hand-wash too? Or a couple of pretty coffee mugs. It doesn't all have to be food related, and you could pick all of that up in your next supermarket shop. I'm sure she will appreciate the effort.

Caspianberg · 04/04/2022 10:33

Fortum and Mason if you want something ‘nice’. They do a lovely alcohol free sparkling tea, nice biscuits etc

Ocado order to her if you thing she needs essentials for the next few days. Nice pre made soups, bread, biscuits, fruit

Aliceforgot · 04/04/2022 10:38

@Creams0da I gave my DM Covid, at Christmas, when it was all really scary pre vaccination. I beat myself up about it but the fact is, you were negative and felt fine when you saw her. (And with me, I felt fine on arrival and there was no testing). What more can you honestly do? It is a virus.

That aside, we didn't feel like eating much at all so I sent my DM some DVD boxsets, some vitamins, some groceries and some Shetland books to keep her going. She really appreciated that.

caringcarer · 04/04/2022 10:56

When my sister got Covid she barely ate for a week as throat too sore and she slept most of the time. Get her fresh soup and take it round to her in a few days. Maybe some fresh orange juice and a bunch of flowers to cheer her up.

Georgeskitchen · 04/04/2022 10:58

Can't be sure she got it from you!!
Some flowers might work better than a hamper, and an offer to leave some supplies on her doorstep

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