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I'm absolutely heartbroken

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Crinkles346 · 03/04/2022 13:04

My boyfriend of a year who I've been doing alot for has been sending sneaky messages to his ex. She started causing trouble when we got together. They stayed friends because somehow she was supporting him after the split. They both wanted different social lives and she was too busy to spend time with him. She dumped him when she got fed up of him texting another woman.

As soon as we got together she started saying stuff to try make me look not good enough. He was trying to manage us both and he's maintained that he finds it quite mature that they stayed friends.

He promised me he hadn't heard from her In months and the last month or so I've settled and felt our relationship had strengthened.

I saw a wattsapp message appear on his phone from her yesterday when he was in the bath. I opened the conversation because she had put several kisses and told him not to cry at their memories. Above thet comment he had called her affectionately by her surname and said how he was listening to a song they loved and crying at the memories. Told her to listen to it. I scrolled up abit more and they have been messaging alot.

I told him I was going home and walked out after saying the reason. He won't pick up the phone. He won't open My messages. I feel so betrayed. I've done so much for him and he was planning a future with me. He's really hurt me.

I just feel so broken today and I'm home alone and feeling really lost.

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Theunamedcat · 03/04/2022 13:06

You have clearly dodged a bullet it might not feel like it but this guy sounds wrong for you leave him and her to play games and hurt someone else

AlternativePerspective · 03/04/2022 13:08

Didn’t you post this yesterday?

Xpologog · 03/04/2022 13:49

You walked away, now stay away. He sounds like a 14 year old.
“She dumped him when she got fed up of him texting other women” . I think your clue was there and you’re better off without him.

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TortugaRumCakeQueen · 03/04/2022 14:38

She dumped him when she got fed up of him texting another woman

One woman will never be enough for this guy. Do not try to contact him! Why are you doing that? You walked out (quite rightly), and you should ignore him from now on.

I was married to a man like this. They never change.

Onwards and upwards, you can do SO much better than this!

LoudingVoice · 03/04/2022 14:42

Good for you walking out on this man, keep your standards high!

He’ll never change, you’re better than this Smile

Have you got plans today? Can you go and see a friend and take your mind off this?

Please block him on everything, you’ll get nothing but more misery from talking to him.

HellToTheNope · 03/04/2022 14:45

You've known from the beginning that this man is a fuckwit, but you ignored it. Good riddance, he's done you a favour.

chisanunian · 03/04/2022 14:46

@Crinkles346

My boyfriend of a year who I've been doing alot for has been sending sneaky messages to his ex. She started causing trouble when we got together. They stayed friends because somehow she was supporting him after the split. They both wanted different social lives and she was too busy to spend time with him. She dumped him when she got fed up of him texting another woman.

As soon as we got together she started saying stuff to try make me look not good enough. He was trying to manage us both and he's maintained that he finds it quite mature that they stayed friends.

He promised me he hadn't heard from her In months and the last month or so I've settled and felt our relationship had strengthened.

I saw a wattsapp message appear on his phone from her yesterday when he was in the bath. I opened the conversation because she had put several kisses and told him not to cry at their memories. Above thet comment he had called her affectionately by her surname and said how he was listening to a song they loved and crying at the memories. Told her to listen to it. I scrolled up abit more and they have been messaging alot.

I told him I was going home and walked out after saying the reason. He won't pick up the phone. He won't open My messages. I feel so betrayed. I've done so much for him and he was planning a future with me. He's really hurt me.

I just feel so broken today and I'm home alone and feeling really lost.

I feel so betrayed. I've done so much for him... what sort of thing do you mean?

...and he was planning a future with me what were your plans? Surely you would plan this sort of thing together, not have him decide, and you be grateful he's chosen you?

chisanunian · 03/04/2022 14:47

Sorry, didn't mean to quote your entire op, just bits

inmyslippers · 03/04/2022 14:54

. She dumped him when she got fed up of him texting another woman.

^^i think the writings on the wall

AnxiousHeffalump · 03/04/2022 15:01

There’s no point messaging or calling him. It’s over.

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