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Would this upset you?

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greenjojocat · 03/04/2022 11:54

I was out last night with a friend for drinks and a bit of food. In the pub, I ordered some small sharing plates for us and we were just chatting away when a man came over to our table and started talking at/to us. He was clearly drunk but we were in a pub and we'd also had a few drinks.

His group of friends were standing away from us at this point. We made it clear that we didn't really want to talk to him and I asked him to stop looming over us and our food. He wandered off but then eventually came back, followed by a friend who wasn't as drunk. The friend sat down next to me while we were still eating and eventually the whole group were around the table. My friend disappeared to go to the bar. She is more chatty with other people when we're out so I understand that she felt more comfortable with the situation.

One of the men then took some food off my plate and another just kept staring at me and it really creeped me out. I can't really remember anything that they said because they were all talking and asking me questions or making general comments. They weren't being overly sexual or aggressive but they were in my space. After a few minutes I remembered that I have legs so I picked up our bags and jackets and walked off to find my friend at the bar, told her we're going and then we went to the toilets.

As we were leaving the doorman told me that he had been keeping an eye on our table and that the group of men had now left.

Today I keep thinking about it and I got upset when my DH asked about my night out. Am I being over sensitive about what happened? I feel down about it today and I feel like I wouldn't go to that place again. For context, my friend and I are are in our early 40s, the men were late 20s.

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Orgasmagorical · 03/04/2022 11:58

Yes, I wouldn't have liked that at all. There would be no knowing how it was going to end up.

I'm glad you were okay, if upset Flowers

TitaniasAss · 03/04/2022 12:00

It wouldn't upset me as such, I would have told them that we were there for a girls night (even though I hate that phrase) and would they mind leaving us be. If that didn't work I probably wouldn't have been so polite.

TitaniasAss · 03/04/2022 12:03

However, anyone taking food from my plate would be told to fuck right off.

Luredbyapomegranate · 03/04/2022 12:05

That sounds extremely strange and invasive - and it is harassment. I can see why you were upset.

Next time if there are bouncers around, ask for them to be moved.

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 03/04/2022 12:10

It wouldn’t upset me but it would have annoyed me and I’d have firmly told them to go away.

AHungryCaterpillar · 03/04/2022 12:12

I don’t think it would upset me but I would have been very annoyed.

veronicagoldberg · 03/04/2022 16:07

Next time, look him straight in the eye and tell him to fuck off. If he doesn't, get security to remove him and his cronies.

newbiename · 03/04/2022 16:09

Maybe the doorman should have come over and checked if you were ok ?
It would annoy me but I'd tell them to go away.

Sundancerintherain · 03/04/2022 16:11

This would have upset me. A similar incident happened to me years ago . Luckily my nephew ( very close in age) spotted me and basically pulled me out of the crowd.

DowntonCrabby · 03/04/2022 16:30

I wouldn’t still be upset or thinking much abut it today but would have absolutely got up and moved/left. Self entitled dicks.

MadMadMadamMim · 03/04/2022 16:33

@YellowAndGreenToBeSeen

It wouldn’t upset me but it would have annoyed me and I’d have firmly told them to go away.
This. I'd have been very clear that they were unwelcome to sit down at our table and join us.

And if they hadn't left I'd have gone and asked the doormen to remove them.

AlaskaFound · 03/04/2022 16:36

I’d be irritated at having to deal with that crap on a night out. Nobody got time for that. Crowding your space when you made it clear they weren’t welcome and eating your food and pretty much running you out the door. Urgh. Annoying.

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