Work dilemma - what would you do?

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Sorry this is likely to be long.

Due to a series of things I handed my notice in last week, the main thing being that I thought my probation was being extended (imo unfairly). I was at the point of getting my union involved. I've been offered 2 positions. At the moment I work 22.5 hours per week (over 5 days) and the two jobs combined would mean working full time.

Anyhow, on Friday I had my exit interview with the deputy manager and I was brutally honest about the problems I'd had with the main manager. Within about 5 minutes of coming out of the meeting my manager was in the building (on their day off) to talk to me.

We thrashed out everything and agreed there had been a lot of miscommunication. The upshot is that they've offered me 30 hours a week over 4 days with a day off.

The dilemma I have is this: having got to the point of handing my notice in there are obviously problems where I currently work which I can't guarantee will be resolved. And obviously I won't earn as much doing 30 hours per week as I would doing full time.

BUT the positives are: I know the job inside and out-my new positions are in the same field but a different aspect so I'd need training. And they're both fixed term contacts whereas my current job is permanent.

DS2 will need to go into breakfast club/after school club. He is currently awaiting ADHD/ASD assessment and at times his behaviour is appalling. I'm very anxious about him going to after school club, acting up and me having to leave early to collect him. At least where I'm working at the moment they know this and will make allowances for me.

And things with DH and I are on a knife edge. Something huge has erupted and I don't honestly know if we'll survive it. I'm not sure if I'm up to learning a new job as well as dealing with this. Again, my work know all about the problems we're having and understand and say they will support me (previously they didn't know any of it).

And I do think having a day off will be wonderful for my own mental health. I never seem to have enough time or energy for housework/admin etc and this would give me the time to do it.

So, wise folk of MN, if you've read this far, what would you do?

I would give it a go with the 30 hours, but set yourself a deadline to decide whether it has improved - say, six months - and if not, look elsewhere. With major things going on in your life outside work I think you're right to say it's not a good time to change jobs

I initially thought that you should leave your current job for a new start after the issues there, but after reading about your DS and DH issues I think you should stay for the reasons you have stated.

Normally, I would say that once you've resigned you should go, as once you've resigned, it's difficult to go back. But, given your current situation (what's you have going on at home), I think you are better off staying where you are for now.

But, you need to confirm the status of your probation for your new role and also make sure that the issues that lead to your current resignation are actually going to be resolved.

Depends on your reasons for leaving your current job.
If it really was miscommunication I’d stay.
If this is a problem with the people managing you I’d leave. The biggest factor (I think) to happiness in work is whether you feel valued and supported by your boss.

Like Pippen, my initial thought was I would move on. However given what else is going on in your life, I would give the current role a further try. You now know what happens when you are straight with them, so keep being assertive. Hope all gets sorted with your ds and dh. 💐

It sounds like you could do w stability and shorter hours.

It also sounds like your employers really want to keep you.

So I’d plan to stay, but do some sense checks first, have they lifted the probation period now? Were you happy with how things were worked through? Is there anything that needs confirming. If you need to have a short further meeting before you decide, then do.