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Help me decide on a job please?

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Snufflebabe05 · 02/04/2022 07:03

Not a stealth boast. I’m in a job which is absolute hell. Started 4 months ago. Terrible induction, Bad management, no coaching or support when you ask, expectation to work excessive hours. When I asked for clarity on priorities, was told everything was a priority and all needed to be done urgently. Etc etc. I was Signed off work with work related stress a couple of months ago. Boss refused to do return to work paperwork, and instead decided I was underperforming and wanted me fired. Out of the blue with no prior discussions on performance. Official review process commenced and was handed a pack of evidence that contained so many lies. In the hearing, I shared evidence to show how so much was untrue. Union described it as a witch-hunt. So I handed in my notice. I can’t work there any more. It was literally making me ill.

Over the last 6 weeks, I’ve been interviewing elsewhere. The day after I handed in my notice, I got 2 job offers. Delighted. However, My confidence in my abilities has hit a low as a result of current employer.

Option 1: Small charity. Through the interview process I met most of the team. Seem lovely. Know I would do the role really well and be happy. It’s in a role that I did for a decade, but haven’t done it in about 4 years. However, very big pay drop which we will have to plan for and only a 9 month mat cover.

Option 2: Global business. Senior role in the field I’ve worked in for 4 years. Big salary, (20% more than option 1). Permanent. Rarely available opp based on where I live. New industry which I’m very interested in. Huge investment in training etc, and loads of future opportunities. Average tenure is 20 years.

However, role at option 2 is the same type of role that I’ve just had a terrible time in. Although I’ve done this role successfully elsewhere. Current employer has spent a long time telling me I’m not good at what I do and confidence has been zapped.

What I’m worried about is - what if current employer is right? What if I’m a bit shit? Maybe that little step up is too big a jump? What if I go to option 2 and figure out that it is not the friendly hug that option 1 is to me, and I’m just not mentally ok? I can’t have another short-term role on my CV.

I need a job. We need the income. I’m just feeling a bit bruised from the last few weeks and can’t see clearly what the right move is.

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WildCoasts · 02/04/2022 07:08

It sounds like you prefer the second option and would pick that if your confidence hadn't had a knock. Don't base your confidence on one bad employer who treated you unfairly. You could give it another go here.

Overall I'd take what you think will work best with your family and you'd enjoy more.

LollyLol · 02/04/2022 07:09

You just go straight for option2. Unquestionably.

You had a horrible experience but a fresh start will make a huge difference. Find some podcasts about building self confidence.

If you pick option 1 you'll be bored.
And regret missing out on option 2.

Reluctantadult · 02/04/2022 07:11

It sounds like you want to do job 2, but you're doubting yourself. It's clear that your previous employers were twats, so don't let that bad experience put you off.

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pitterpatterrain · 02/04/2022 07:12

Option 2 but negotiate your start date to give yourself a bit of time to get your head in the game - and if it’s a large company their benefits would hopefully include a confidential stress line / coaching etc so use it

Can you speak to or meet with other people doing the role at 2? That’s also a reasonable candidate request ahead of hiring to get a better sense of the day-to-day

Mummadeze · 02/04/2022 07:33

Definitely Option 2. Your new Manager might make all the difference. Don’t let the previous one make you take a step back.

girlmom21 · 02/04/2022 07:36

Go for option 2. You're more than capable of doing the job in a business that respects its employees.

Snufflebabe05 · 02/04/2022 07:39

All great advice here.

This is a singular role - as in, there isn’t anyone else in the company who does it. The person in the role is not leaving the company though, and is moving to a senior role in broadly the same function.

I feel that option 2 is the right move. The sensible move. I’d just hate for it not to work out, again. In my 20+ years of working life I’ve never had such a bad 4 months. I’m annoyed at myself about how much it has affected me.

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