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EthelsAuntie · 02/04/2022 04:49

This is a very woe is me post. I've name changed as I haven't actually spoken to many people in real life about all this. This last week has just been a lot.
I am wide awake. Full of steroids and just trying to process the last week.
I was very unwell the previous week back and forth to the gp every day, eventually begging to be put into hospital. Was put up to an assessment ward, had to be alone because of covid, I was being violently sick and in serious amounts of pain. I waited for 4 hours initially. Taken through, they started assessing me but kept being interrupted finished being assessed and told I would need to stay.
It took 3 days for them to discover my bowels had perforated and that I was developing sepsis. I'm youngish and my relatively healthy body was doing its best to fight for me but it was very close.
I had emergency open surgery on Monday to remove part of my bowel.
It will be a long recovery. Moved wards at 2am again. This will be my 4th ward with different staff on each one in a week. I would really like to get back to the specialist ward but was moved from there after it became surgical.
I think I am on the right track but it is not going to be easy or a quick fix.
Different consultant saw me yesterday, barely looked at me and wanted to change the plan for me. The original plan had been made along with a consultant who has supported me through my IBD journey for seven years.
New guy admitted that it wasn't cost affective and that was his main issue. He also told me Crohns can be cured which I questioned.
Im just tired of having to fight every step of the way. Im tired of it all. Because of covid ward restrictions my young kids haven't seen me since Sunday. DH has an army of helpers and I will always be grateful to but this is just exhausting.
I think they will push to send me home tomorrow even though I can barely eat yet. I only started eating rice yesterday. I ate 4 spoonfuls. The first in food in over a week.
I have lost a shocking amount of weight.
But as im no longer at the life threatening bit, im going to have to muddle through, googling to help myself.
My husband will work from home, the kids are on holiday. I just need to get better.
Im usually a very upbeat, positive person but im too tired to motivate that instinct right now.
I worry a lot for anyone elderly or vulnerable at the moment. If you need an advocate to speak for you, support you, I think it will be difficult.
Anyway, I'm going to try and find a comfy spot and get some kind of sleep.

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Handsnotwands · 02/04/2022 05:01

You poor thing. I can’t offer any actual help but do remember the darkest hour is just before dawn as mamma Cass would say. It’s possible things might not seem quite so shit in the morning?

EthelsAuntie · 02/04/2022 06:35

Thanks, I've just seen in a news article they need to send home more patients today as they are so short staffed.
I suppose I should be grateful that I've had the surgery and am on the road to recovery .
I fully expect to be sent home today. Maybe it will be ok. I just hope we can cope at home. At least I can have a loo to myself though!

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bettertocryinamercedes · 02/04/2022 19:08

How are you now OP? Did you stay in hospital or are you at home?
Wishing you a speedy recovery and hope that your treatment plan is sorted.

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Bookridden · 02/04/2022 19:38

What a terrible time you've had. I really hope that this is a turning point for you. You sound very calm, controlled and articulate, and the fact you can be this way after the trauma you've had bodes well for your full recovery. (Have a look on Twitter at Sam Freedman's piece about recovering from bowel surgery). Good luck, and I hope life improves quickly.

EthelsAuntie · 03/04/2022 02:53

Thank you for your replies. This must be the time that the steroids are going to wake me for a while.
I'm apparently going home tomorrow. I think that will be ok. It is not going to be easy to just rest but I will give it a try.
Yesterday, a nurse suggested DH met me in the corridor with a wheelchair and that I just left the ward for a while to see my girls. That wee hour absolutely made my day.
I hadn't seen them since before the op.
Granted they were both wearing the older ones clothes but they are absolutely fine and have coped brilliantly. I'm so proud of their attitudes this week. They have carried on with things and just waiting patiently for mummy to be better.
My wound was checked over. The nurses were saying that it was lovely and neat and clean. I thought it looked horrific but that is probably just because I'm a bit squeamish with the staples.
I've been checking out different people's views on the Crohns forum pages. I'm reassured that things seem to be going the right way.
I just need to start rediscovering an appetite and a love of food. Sure it won't take me long but I have lost another 3kg this week so obviously need to eat a bit more. I need to at least sustain my weight if not put a bit on. Although I do like my smaller butt! It can stay for a while.
Here's to getting better and getting a full night sleep in my own bed.

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