Am I too old for this?

[SpringIntoChaos]

I'm WAY WAY out of my comfort zone here...so I'm throwing my dilemma into The Hive (I know you will all help me with this!!) 🤣

So...I'm 57, and have been single for many years!! Which in itself is ridiculously sad!! 🤦‍♀️

I've been asked out on a date by a man 10 years younger than me. Now I know 'age is just a number' etc...but IRL how will this be perceived? I know I shouldn't care...but I do! I'm just not confident enough to believe that a much younger guy could possibly be interested!! I'm nearly 60 for heaven's sake, and he's not yet 50.

I'm perfectly ok with the opposite...if he was 10 years older than me, it wouldn't even cross my mind to question the age difference (which is unfair isn't it, that my views on this are skewed by 'what others might think'?)

Talk me through this you wonderful people! My confidence in the dating arena is currently at rock bottom 😢

Stop living only to placate and please other people. You should know this by now! Who give a shit what anyone thinks, they don't have to live your life.

Go on the date and enjoy yourself. If it works out, lovely! If not, no loss.

I'm 41 and my husband is nearly 11 years younger than me. If you like him, go for it and don't fret about the age gap.

Who would you be worried about judging you @SpringIntoChaos? If it's family & friends, I would say they should be supporting you to be happy. Would they really be judging you or maybe saying go for it & they might even be envious 😁 If it was strangers judging you in the street, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Their opinion of you doesn't mean anything to you. I wonder if the age gap is even noticeable? I know we often feel self conscious but I think the gift of getting older is that we care less what others think. It's your life, you deserve to be happy and to meet someone after a long gap is hurt wonderful.

Don't doubt yourself Spring, there's no need to. The man could obviously see all your lovely qualities. Enjoy spending time together. We tend not to regret the things we do - more the things that we don't do! Enjoy every minute 😃

@Albgo that's lovely to hear 🥰

@Whatliesbeneath707 thank you! Your are right...we do tend to regret the things we didn't do! 👍

It would feel like a wonderful compliment if I was in your shoes…the responses already given are spot on! Go for it!

I agree with the sentiments here yet I would feel just like you in your position! I think it's having seen how very much you can change/age between mid forties and mid fifties - much more than between 20s-30s and 30s - 40s.

I do think you should go on the date though and see how it goes or you may always wonder.

Go on the date! My dh is 10 years younger than me, (together 25 years) Im nearly 60, tbh the older we both get the less we notice the age gap, mainly because I am terribly immature and he is a grown up!

Just go and see what the guy is like, you may just 'click', btw, the sex is pretty good, they soon learn to keep up

He’s asked you on a date not asked you to marry him.
If you enjoy his company go; if he’s a twat don’t. What other people think is of no consequence.