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One hour tantrum and still going help!

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username97655 · 01/04/2022 01:19

DS isn't having the best week he is definitely teething and has a cold. We cosleep. He woke over an hour ago and because I wasn't in the room he started crying. Normally I would go in give him a cuddle and he's straight back to sleep. Tonight however he wouldn't lie back down just sat up screaming. This has been going on now for over an hour I think I am losing my mind. I've tried bf, checked his nappy, his temp, given Calpol, asked him what is wrong. (He is 2 so can kind of understand/express himself.) I'm exhausted listening I can't understand how you can scream and thrash around for so long.

Please any advice?

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miraveile · 01/04/2022 01:21

Erm why don't you go and sit with him on your bed? Why are you not in the room?

Daffodils22 · 01/04/2022 01:24

@miraveile

Erm why don't you go and sit with him on your bed? Why are you not in the room?

Because MN is clearly more important (the mind boggles)

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username97655 · 01/04/2022 01:25

Erm we cosleep I'm in the same bed as him.

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Piper22 · 01/04/2022 01:25

Why on earth are you sitting on mumsnet then?

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username97655 · 01/04/2022 01:27

We are in the same bed he is sat up next to me screaming for the last hour. I have been trying to calm him down for the last hour. I came on here for advice. We cosleep as I said in the OP

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IntendingWell · 01/04/2022 01:31

OP I've been there and I've no advice, just sympathy and empathy.

This too shall pass (and it's bloody hard I know)

twoandcooplease · 01/04/2022 01:31

Is he cold? I noticed the temp suddenly drop an hour ago and I've had to cuddle ds in to sleep. He's snoring on my lap now with body heat

Smurf123 · 01/04/2022 01:34

@username97655 sending hugs just keep doing what you are doing. You have checked All the main things so now just know that this will pass. My ds is now 4 but he still does this in the rare occasion I think it's actually more like. Anight terror. He seems awake but actually he's not quite. Talking to him makes it worse so I just say ds mummy is here for a cuddle when your ready and then I lie down to sleep and usually before long he collapses into my arms

mathanxiety · 01/04/2022 01:34

Try plopping him into a bath even though it's late.

mathanxiety · 01/04/2022 01:35

Owwlie · 01/04/2022 01:35

Well after an hour of him screaming I’m sure the OP has tried calming him and has likely resorted to mumsnet for help (not arsey comments). She made it clear she co sleeps but had obviously left the room when he woke up.

OP, I end up co sleeping with DD most nights and she wakes up screaming if I leave the room (she’s also 2). Apparently separation anxiety peaks around this stage.

Maybe try putting the lights on? He might have had a nightmare and the light going on might shock him out of the tantrum. Or take him downstairs?

Get a book/toy? Put a cartoon on? I would probably try and ‘reset’ bedtime. So take downstairs, get a beaker of milk then back upstairs for a story and sleep again.

AntiHop · 01/04/2022 01:39

Could it be a night terror rather than a tantrum?

donquixotedelamancha · 01/04/2022 01:47

Calpol. Milk or something else comforting to fill his tummy. Distraction like a favourite song or TV show. Then ride it out.

It does get better, OP.

Duracellbunnywannabe · 01/04/2022 01:52

How old is he? Teething pain is always worse when laying down. Nurofen is better than calpol and anbesol liquid is really good too. Assuming you haven’t got any in the house and your child has been crying for an hour, I would get them up have a snack/milk cuddle for 30 mins and then go back to bee.

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username97655 · 01/04/2022 01:53

Thanks everyone I am wondering now if it was a night terror. He was sat up screaming with his eyes closed when I first went in the room.
I have given up trying to get him back to sleep and brought him downstairs. He has stopped screaming so going to watch afew cartoons.

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HereIfYouNeedMe · 01/04/2022 01:58

I'm glad he's stopped OP, I hope you both manage to get some rest

Merlott · 01/04/2022 02:01

Screaming randomly at night is standard 2 yo behaviour for my DC. I memorably called an ambulance for DS when he had a weird night terror thing that lasted longer than normal and he couldn't be woken. He woke up in the ambulance! The hospital kept him on monitors all night but nothing was found and he's a perfectly healthy 5 yo now.

My DD is 2 and her favourite at night is to shout NO or growl randomly and kick her legs violently. Sometimes for hours on and off.

If you are worried do call 111 or see your GP. They would rather see 100 well children than miss 1 poorly one.

Imissprosecco · 01/04/2022 02:26

Glad the screaming has stopped. There's nothing worse than when they're screaming like they're being murdered and you can't figure out how to stop it. My DS did this a few times when he first turned 2. He wasn't truly awake and the only way to stop it was to wake him up. Hope you get some sleep soon!

spottygymbag · 01/04/2022 02:48

You have my complete sympathy. Glad it's stopped now and you can all relax a bit. I always found a complete change of scene or something unexpected seemed to help break the tantrum. Sometimes it was a "dark walk" outside on the street, even in the middle of the night, or a midnight snack on a blanket on the kitchen floor. It was enough to switch things up and distract from whatever was causing the tantrum ( after checking for all the usual things).

MancInSpanx · 01/04/2022 06:25

OP hope you managed to get some sleep.

It may be night terrors. When my DS was a similar age he started with them, he would be sat op screaming for me and no amount of comforting or reassurance would break him out of this trance. It was usually when he was coming down with something. He’s a lot older now and in primary KS2 but now and again he still suffers with them. You have my sympathy, they’re quite scary to see and also frustrating because you’ve tried everything that normally works so you are a bit like WTF, calm down everything’s fine!

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username97655 · 01/04/2022 09:13

Thank you again everyone I didn't even think of a night terror until you all mentioned it. DS finally got back to sleep about 2.45 am. I had to be up at 7 so today is going to be a tiring one.
Looking up night terrors and it definitely sounds like one. I think it was triggered by me not being there when he woke. I would normally be in bed by that time with him I had just stayed up later than usual.
It says not to fully wake them but I agree with posters on here. He just wasn't calming down and the change in environment/switching the light seem to snap him out of it.

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Duracellbunnywannabe · 01/04/2022 09:32

Night terrors are often linked to being over tired and illness.

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