When your DC come home from Uni does this affect the dynamics in your household ?

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DD is back from Uni for a couple of weeks and TBH I'm finding it difficult as the dynamics in the house change. It's not the first time but I think it's got worse over the last 3 years.

One-to-one we're getting on fine but as soon as DP is around it seems that everything I do or say is wrong and she jumps to his defence about everything. She's also pissing DS off as she (in his eyes) doesn't pull her weight when back.

Anyone find the same? How do you cope?

It is a 'thing'.

I am far more relaxed not I am on my 3rd one to-ing and fro-ing from University.
It is difficult at first, as you are excited to have them home again and expect to revert into the parent / schoolchild relationship you have before they went, but they have got used to having much more autonomy about their lives, and eat at weird different times, go out at odd times, come in at odd times, sleep on a completely different times scale from you.
They have got used to not having to be accountable to anyone else. Though they usually share a flat, they are all autonomous individuals who cook when they want, shower when they want, eat when they want, sleep when they want and they have got out of the habit of family living.
They usually also want to spend time catching up with their 'home friends' when many of us, as parents, were expecting them to spend quite a bit of time with us.

I cope best by relaxing and letting them get on with it. I usually try and take them out for lunch or a meal and I usually facilitate a meeting up with Grandparents, but other than that, I let them exist alongside us.
Bit like with not particularly tame animals... let them come to you and they will - chase after them and it doesn't work so well.

It was definitely a thing for me. Looked forward to him coming back, but he was a different version of the DS that left for Uni.
I insured him on my car every holiday he came back so he had freedom to not be here if he wished.
By the time I had got used to him being home it was time to take him back again though.

i love it and he will be moving back this summer after 3 years away

he does visit alot and we get on so well but always have

he arrived today at 7.30pm and was back out the door after a shower at 8,30pm he has a GF now so i guess i wont be seeing him much