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Taking time off work for mental health

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poppetandmog · 30/03/2022 11:47

I am currently signed off work at the moment as I'm struggling with my mental health. I have had a really traumatic few years with a lot going on - infertility, adopting our son, adapting to life as a SEN parent, house move, promotion at work, family bereavement, (on top of a very difficult childhood.) It has all just caught up with me and my anxiety has been off the scale. I've always suffered from anxiety but it's never been this bad and has just completely floored me.

I luckily have access to private medical through work and have just started a course of intensive therapy to work through my past trauma and finally get to the route of the anxiety. It's helping but it's tough.

I feel very guilty about being off work - I've been signed off for a month but I think I'm going to need longer. I'm worried people will think I am malingering (I had 8 weeks off in 2017 due to poor mental health) and I feel bad that I will be putting pressure on my colleagues. I'm also worried about the work mounting up while I'm off as I don't think it will all have been picked up (no one's checking my emails for example.)

I have a call with occupational health today about going back and I guess I just wanted to hear from anyone that's been through something similar and whether a period off from worm helped. A lot of my anxiety centres around guilt about things that aren't really my fault so this is clouding my judgement a bit. I do feel like I need the time and space to get my shit together otherwise this pattern will just keep repeating but being off work is something I am finding hard to deal with.

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ISayItLikeItIs · 31/03/2022 09:42

Listen your mental health is important...How can you even give your best at work if you're struggling mentally? Don't feel guilty, take as time as you need. If it was a more physical illness would you still feel guilty?

Most times MH is trivialized as labelled 'not a real illness' but its far from that.

finalpunt · 31/03/2022 10:37

I am really struggling with my mental health at the moment but I really just can't take time off as I part own business, People's jobs would be in jeopardy - so I completely get the nervousness about work flow and catching up etc.

On the flip side of that I have a manager who works for me who has had a terrible time with her mental health, she has been signed off and tried to return to work. She also felt she couldn't let the business down. I had to tell her in the kindest way that that was not her worry, she absolutely had to take the time. She was off for a few weeks and has had (is still having) cbt therapy and has now returned on a part time basis and is going to try and build her hours back over a period of time.

Unless you own the company they will find a way through. If you had a bad accident and was physically unable to work for a while, they would find a way through. Any decent employer will want you to be better and without mental health there is no physical health, take the time you need it Flowers

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