hi there,
I am homeless as my husband change the front door lock. I come from abroad journey attending a family emergency. Then my husband change in a week, stole £8000 from joint account from my wages as he never contributes to the house hold bills. First time travel without kids 17y 15y 13y. When i arrived from the airport he was waiting out of the house asked for divorce and said that the kids were agreed. He never said that. in fact two weeks before he was telling that he loves me. I just realised that he was abusing me financially, emotional and gaslighting. Makes the kids believe that i am staying with friends and i am ok. Called social services and i did not get help as the abuse is only inflicted to me and my kids are not having bruises. Police said it is not crime at all. Emotional abuse hard to prove. My daughter has disclose that he is manipulative to social services. I have to fight to make them to do a informal visit, them they close the case.
He is a milkman and know a lot of people. I am not here, i do not know the law. I am so tired and frustrated with this situation.
The tenancy is on his name as he manipulated me making thing that i would have the same rights because we were married.
19 yeas living with someone that i do not recognise. it does not show any remorse. He said to the kids how wonderful is his life without me. My eldest eczema is flaring up because of the stress, my youngest was finding at school avoiding classes, and no body seems understand that it is due to the stress they are going through.
Try to ask for help with his family, I was not lucky as they told me that at the end he was their cousins. His family is half English half Irish. I am homeless for about 2 months now.
Tried to rent and applied to the council, no luck jet.
off work as i am having panic attacks. I am my kids mainly carer, he has never been in school meeting, at weekends always sleeping in the day and awake whole night watching TV. Suddenly he becomes the best daddy. Given money to the kids to spend at the weekends and given all liberties. I am so worried they are good kids, but they are in the age that they need support and guide.
I have been contacted half London for help. feeling so lost.