I am getting married this year.
I have decided to have 5 bridesmaid, my closest friends and some family. Since last September we have been speaking about the month we plan to have the hen.
One of the bridesmaids is a close friend and I have done a lot for her (looked after her children regularly, taken her shopping and other places, organised and paid for her baby shower and have showed up to see her last minute on many occasions if something has happened). Not once have I ever asked her for anything! She also said she wasn’t sure if she could attend the wedding as the day of the week it was on because of childcare reasons (this was 1 year before the wedding!). There is also always excuses why she could never attend any of the meals that we had planned and if questions were raised in the messenger group she would be the one to never reply. On organising the hen she has said that she cannot afford it so will not be coming.
It is not an expensive hen and she’s known about it for 7 months. I also see she goes to get her eyelashes done and goes for meals regularly. Considering everything AIBU to be annoyed about the lack of effort she has put in with trying to attend the hen? And do I take her out of being a bridesmaid?