12 month old hates people

[Tulips14]

Hello

Sorry long post alert.
New here and just looking for some advise my 12 month old has always been a relatively happy baby until around 10 mo the he decided he didn’t like people, well he does just on his terms He’s 12 months now and is getting better at least I thought. He burst’s out into uncontrollable tears if he’s uncomfortable and nothing not even me holding him calms him down unless I remove him from the situation. I don’t understand he’s fine out in the park, pram shops etc. I’ve tried a few baby classes and it’s resulted in tears so I’ve left. It’s strange because he went to his grandma’s at the weekend and broke down even though he saw her a week ago and was completely fine with her so I don’t understand why it’s not all the time . He went for his first settling in session at nursery today which started off well he was happy laughing walking around until a different women came and took us into a room and he irrupted, he calmed down after a bit but I had to resort to the dummy and was completely happy once we left. I’m dreading leaving him tomorrow for 2 hrs. Is is a phase, Does he just need time to feel comfortable with people. He’s fine with my mum, husband and uncle. Could it be his teeth? He’s teething (he’s just cut his first tooth)
He’s off his food and milk will only have yogurt or banana and a few bites of stuff so that also doesn’t help I guess.
It’s making me nervous to go to places and getting me down not knowing how he’s going to react.

It is standard separation anxiety, a stage to go through. The angry cries and shuddering sobs are awful, ngl,but nursery will have strategies to deploy.
Don't worry about 'resorting to the dummy' - the whole point of them is to bring comfort when needed.

You as mummy might need to grit your teeth. Drop and go at handover can be easier.

You got this, Mama.

My daughter was like this but she was more consistent and hated everyone always. We still put her in childcare and she found a carer she liked and began to like other children. She's now 7 and very happy and loves people. I know it's hard but it's not a reflection of their personality, it's just a phase.

Thanks for your replies ladies.

So is there anything I can do to help or is it a case or riding it out and he will improve?

@Tulips14

Thanks for your replies ladies.

So is there anything I can do to help or is it a case or riding it out and he will improve?

I have 6 and have been through this 5 times Ride it out-don’t avoid these places-just try to carry on as normal It will improve-I promise

Horaceandgus Oh this makes me feel better!

He gets himself so worked up even me being there doesn’t calm him down, so weird how it’s not all the time either.

Hopefully he will improve he’s such a lovely happy chappy I just want everyone to see that

You honestly believe he is doing this because he hates people? I would try and let go of that belief, he is 12 months old. You are his world. That's all. He is attaching to you and you alone, everyone else is periphery and led by how he experiences your interactions to some extent. Just ride this wave until he feels more secure and he will venture out again with others.

coffeeisthebest No I don’t think he hates people really . Just any overly socially setting he gets really upset hense why I’ve avoided classes but he enjoys play centres and super marks I know people say to carry on but it’s not fun with a screaming baby who won’t calm down.
Anyway he survived his second settling session they said he was very on and off throughout, abit “lost” in the room at times, would play and kind of forget where he was and then cry again.. he even cried when I went to collect him! He’s going back tomorrow and Thursday for a couple of hours I think it’s just going to take take.

Take time *