Covid and DH unreasonableness

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DH has been absent for about a month, caring for his sick parent. He’s back and forward between the two homes, but he’s head has been there.

I’ve been dealing with the house, kids, FT job and an MA. Never so much as a thanks.

Parent is in hospital. DH sibling is available, but useless. I’ve now got covid.

Poor Angry you say? No, more he doesn’t want to get it’s he has to visit/look after parent. They’re now in hospital.

The final straw was the “where is…” y’know, all the stuff that is MY job. Where are the spare toilet rolls? Told him. Go into the bathroom to find I’ve got a toilet roll with my name written on it.

I told him he was insensitive, selfish and emotionally stunted. I’m fed up of being his fucjing support human. He didn’t understand.

Not posted in AIBU as I probably am. It’s covid. But I just need someone on my side.

I feel like poop and I’m not getting paid for today if I’m ill.

Sorry you've had a challenging month. I don't understand about the toilet roll with your name on it. Also if you have a FT job are off with covid you will get paid.

I do understand that if your husband is visiting a parent in hospital he would want to stay away from a COVID positive person to prevent the chances of passing it on to ill parent.

I get it OP, you just want some sympathy and to be considered for once.
Using a separate toilet roll is not going to stop him getting covid if he’s living in the same house as you!
I hope you feel better soon

I’m sorry but you’re being unreasonable. He won’t be allowed in to hospital if he gets covid. His already unwell parent could die from it.

Sorry you’ve got covid but it sounds like he’s got a lot to worry about right now and hog could be a bit more understanding.

Your sick and need support too?
His focus has all been on them from day one?
No room for you?
Your feelings are understandable but his are too he needs to learn to multitask and give you some support when your feeling so ill

His priority needs to be looking after the kids right now. Yes he needs to take precautions with you (and test the kids) but he can be sympathetic too. Its not your fault you are ill.

I suspect you are both going though a tough time and neither of you are being unreasonable in what you need. Just hang in there and get though it and hopefully you will both get back on track.

Thanks all.

Yes, we’ve both had enough.

I feel so ill and overwhelmed. Anyhow. Keeping on!