Lonely lady in the North east looking for a true friend

[SakuraB]

Hi everyone

I am from the North east of England I am 37 years old and have 2 sons age 8 and 10.

I have been feeling very lonely for some time now, I never have any luck with friends, im just too nice and kind a person and people I let in tend to use me and treat me bad. I am just looking for someone of a similar age in the North east area that also has children that would want to go on trips together and some trips just us ladies shopping, cocktails etc.

I am a loyal genuine person just trying so hard to find a true forever friend, all the ones I've ever let in just take advantage and use me. I also have depression and anxiety.

If anyone else is in the same boat please don't hesitate to message me or comment on the thread.

Hope to hear from some people soon, fingers crossed.

I don't live anywhere near North East but I just want to wish you luck in your search. Everyone deserves to have a friend and confidant that is trustworthy and caring ☕️🧁

Hi I would love to be your friend, I’m in the same situation aged 40 but in London. Well done for putting yourself out there, that’s very brave. I hope you find lots of lovely friends. Keep your head held high and remember you’re incredible. Good luck xx

I'm nowhere near you (Surrey) but I truly hope you meet some like minded people soon. Your post is so honest and I know it will resonate with lots of people. Life is busy but you've made a really positive step and I think people will reach out. You could also post this on local Facebook groups.

Could you narrow it down just a little please as you could be anywhere from Berwick to Middlesbrough?

I'm in London unfortunately but I know you're soon going to be feeling the warmth and support of a lovely, true friend group because you deserve it, sending love

I’m in sunny scotland so too far away :-( but you deserve to have good folk in your life, just remember it’s nothing to do with you, lit’s them that are idiots! I’ve went through same situation in last couple of years, karma will catch up with the ones who do wrong xx

I'm in the Midlands so too far away which is a shame because I'd love to be friends! I'm a single mum of a boy about to turn 9 so it would've been perfect. We love days out, DS is an only child so it's nice for him to have company sometimes. I love cocktails too!

Are you able to join any groups nearby - walking groups are often nice, friendly environments often with older women. Any possibility of striking up school mum friendships?

I hope you find someone OP - I found a friend through an appeal on mumsnet a few years ago. But I think maybe (after a name change so you can start afresh) you might have better success with a slightly different tack.

Reread your OP as if you were a nice and kind person. True there's nothing negative there but there's also very little about you that might tell others more about what sort of things you'll have in common.

Now reread your op as if you were a selfish and nasty person who uses "friendships" for their own benefit. You are advertising loud and clear that it will be easy to fool you again. So I worry that you might get the wrong sort of response from here if you get one at all.

I would advise you start a new thread with a new user name with the following changes:
Cut everything about previous friendships being betrayed and what a nice and kind but easy to take advantage of person you are.
Don't advertise for finding a long term soulmate friend. It's too big a burden to answer such a call. But call for something more achievable that a long-term-soulmate-in-potential might answer. So pick a attraction or two, or a specific activity (I have picked one from a random google of family attractions in the northeast. Substitute with a different one of your choice obviously), and ask for companionship for that, and see where it goes.

So how about:
Thread title: Adventure Valley Durham
Do you live anywhere within reasonable travelling distance of adventure valley near Durham? Do you go there often? I'd really like to take my kids but I know I would get so bored with no other adult to talk to while they run around so I would really like to link up with another similar family to do a trip with. My kids are 2 sons age 8 & 10 - they are into (list a couple of things like minecraft and pokemon that kids might bond over). I am 37, I like chatting about (list 3 interests that people might have in common with you) but I am quite shy and find it difficult to make friends so I am hoping that someone similar reads this so we can link up.

Might be worth posting on Mumsnet local? Or have you used the Nextdoor app? I've found that useful for lots of local recommendations and it might be a way of making local friends.

OP you need to tell people more about yourself.
Where in North east are you?
What sort of thing do you want to do together? If you are shopping is it markets and antiques places, high end fashion or Metro Centre? Even shopping is a diverse activity. If you want to go for cocktails, what would you chat about? What interests might you share?

Do you have childcare that could help you go out and do some activities where you might meet like minded people? A book club, running club, craft group, am-drams etc?

The NE is a big old place, could help to narrow it down.

There is a NE thread in chat somewhere, I shall tag you.

If you are around Durham then there is mums in Durham on Facebook you can join.

There are also things like walking groups around the region and in Durham there is a mums on the run group which is free to attend and has a mix of total beginners and experienced runners.

I do understand, meeting people is hard. I'm less likely to up and meet someone from here these days, though I used to back when it was a smaller site! However should you be near me and be interested in some of the local but open or easy to join Facebook groups then I'd be happy to meet. My youngest is 10 and very sociable.

NE here op. I have a ds 7.. Prob too old at 50!! I have a dd 32!!

I'm in the North East.
2 DC- both a couple of years older than your dc though who are that pre-teen reluctant to go on days out with me stage unfortunately.
I also have no luck with friends and seem to attract people who use me and for this reason I've found myself pretty much friendless as after a while I back away.
I tried to make friends with local school Mum's but found them competitive and fake.
Often wonder what it must be like to have a true friend to share life's ups and downs with.

OP,I hope you can find someone with whom to share a coffee or a day out. But, in the kindest way, most friendships are based on mutual experiences, such as with friends from school or a workplace.
You would be better posting on a local FB page, or your son's schools Whatsapp group, asking if anyone with a son of the same age as yours would like to join you on a trip out somewhere, and take it from there. It might develop into a real friendship, but you'll have to just try it and see, without having the expectation of a deep friendship.

Where in the north east? If you're anywhere near I'd be happy to chat/meet for a coffee or something!