Has Your Mothers Day Been What You Expected?

[SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows]

I knew DD13 wouldn’t do anything & she proved me right. Plus I wasn’t happy when she woke me up as I haven’t slept properly in weeks & was actually managing a bit of a lie in, despite the clocks going forward. Still, it’s been glorious weather & I had a good catch up with DM when I took her daffs & card over. It was so hot we had to retreat indoors. DF had gone shopping but chatted to him when he came back. Looking forward to our Tescos Thai meal & more Greys Anatomy. We only discovered it recently & are binge watching right from Series One! It’s great to find something we both like. Oh & I treated myself to a bottle of one of my favourite wines. Having a lovely chilled glass right now. Cheers!

Yes probably

My child is a pre-schooler so obviously DH organises stuff like Mother’s Day.

DH would never completely spoil me, so I’d never expect the whole cup of tea in bed / get taken out for surprise lunch / be told to put my feet up and relax kind of treatment.

Today I was first out of bed when DC woke up.
We did a family activity, but it wasn’t a treat for me as such. Although DH did forgo his normal hobby he does on Sunday mornings.
I was a bit annoyed later as DH had bought the food for a Mother’s Day tea which he planned to cook, but then realised he needed to take his own mum her card & gift so I ended up cooking Typical lack of foresight / planning by DH.

I got a card & bunch of flowers.

So wasn’t amazing but wasn’t terrible. About what I expected

It was as expected, and same as recent years. DD brought me tea in bed and lovely card she made, we chatted away about random stuff. We went to DM's with a gift she had asked me to make her and she was happy with that.

Then the three of us went for a country park stroll and to have tea, all quite nice. Then we had a row that began with DM expressing some of her anti-liberal/racist/fake news opinions. Ended with me saying can we just not discuss these things and DM upset at how she can't be herself then.

I kicked myself for letting it turn into a row when I should have learnt by now to pivot to anything else. We parted on some chat about the weather. Same old same old.

As expected. Been ill with vomiting bug for last 2 days and still not feeling great. Also just started hrt so hormones all over the place. No sympathy or support from DH on either front.

Mother's Day started with being up as usual 3 x in night with autistic DS1, and then woken up by DS2 at 5.30am. Took them both downstairs while DH slept. He came down at 8am fixed himself breakfast then went back to his bedroom without mentioning mother's day. Asked him to keep an eye on DS2 whilst I had a shower. When I finished my shower he accused me of being grumpy with him and that he was working on his laptop.
I reminded him it was Mother's Day and that he had managed to send a gift to his Mum only the day before.

Got a begrudging apology, said he remembered yesterday but forgot in the morning, and he ran upstairs and got a blank card which he then attempted to get my 2 year old to scribble on in front of me unsuccessfully.

Because I was ill he agreed to take our eldest out for the afternoon.

When they got back at 6pm I had eaten with my 2 year old and left DHs dinner in the warming drawer. He declared he didn't like it and then grumped about there being no food whilst I put my 2 year old to bed.

I should really divorce him but it is impossible to do so with a severely autistic child and a toddler when he refuses to leave.

Not a great one for me unfortunately. Got back from a night shift and had about 4hours sleep as DH was doing DIY and was in and out of the house making a lot of noise. He bought me flowers and a card but only bc I mentioned it to him yesterday that it's Mother's day today. Went to make myself a cup of coffee since he didn't bother to ask. Realised there's no black coffee left which I normally have but seen that DH bought a pack of flavoured lattes coffee pods that he normally drinks , which I don't like. He didn't bother buying any for me. He didn't make an effort in any way today, just pottering around the house. I'm quite upset as I usually go out of my way for Fathers day and last year I've booked lunch for him , his dad and his partner and I've footed the bill . So it's a bit hurtful when I'm being taken for granted tbh. A cup of coffee in bed and a foot rub would have sufficed, I didn't expect the moon and the stars.

It’s been an emotional day for me as my friend died in October and today would have been her birthday. I’ve found myself crying at the slightest thing. Both my children are at university and working today. I’m waiting to hear from DD and I FaceTimed with DS earlier. No cards, no gifts (which doesn’t bother me) DH has been very understanding of my emotions today. Watched an episode of The Repair Shop which didn’t help.

I had a lovely day. My adult DDs and their partners drove a 100 mile round trip to bring me flowers and chocs and take me to a gourmet restaurant for a three course lunch with wine, then took me for a lovely walk in blazing sunshine up the Perthshire hills with stunning views to the mountains.
I raised my DDs alone from babyhood as DH died young, and I’m v proud of what kind and lovely young women they’ve become.

It has been totally shit.

Spent it in tears actually. Was so looking forward to it. I do EVERYTHING for everyone in this house.

I just wanted today to be about me, no jobs to do, just a break from it all and to feel special.

Sorry for those who have had a bad day.

Mine was nice, this year I made it that way. Dd (16) was away for the weekend with friends, DS (14) grudgingly bought me a coffee in bed and gave me the gifts I had bought for myself, wrapped for myself, and told him to give to me.

Then chatted with other single parent friends & went to garden centre, alone but nice. Lunch in the sun. Bought a half price plant I’d wanted for ages but couldn’t afford.

Picked DD up in the afternoon & she had bought me chocolates and a card.

So it was fab. And no abusive, angry, EXH to deal with. feel so free now.

It was OK.

DH got me a lovely card from my toddler and 'planned to get you breakfast in bed' but him and said toddler slept in until nearly 10am which never happens! I guess it's the thought that counts!
Visited my own mum and made her a lunch with my siblings and she got some time to relax. Made myself a coffee and sort of got some peace to drink it. Otherwise no special treatment!

No I was very disappointed. I actually had higher expectations but know better for next year and will make my own plans.

I don't have any expectations about Mothers Day so I'm never overly fussed. When they were little it was nice to have a card and bit of fuss. I had card off youngest DD and kiss off the eldest. Visited my DM's grave with some flowers.
I've had an OK day.

It's been ok.

No lie in or breakfast in bed as we had to get up and out to deliver flowers to MIL and present to my DM. I got two lovely home/school made cards from DS2 and a card from them both. DH got me 3 gin miniatures which were unwrapped as he forgot. I'm not a huge gin fan and I don't have anything to drink it with. We went to a fast food place for lunch because we didn't really have any food in, and they got the order wrong twice. DS1 has tried to be nice today but DS2 has been a whinge bag. The dog has barked constantly and I've spent most of the day clearing up dog shit and taking dog out into the garden. I tried to watch a film but there were constant interruptions so I gave up. DH made bacon sandwiches for dinner which took an hour and they were cold. He's gone to bed and I'm sitting in the hall against the radiator with a glass of JD and coke, because if I go in the living room the dog will bark.

A bit disappointed at the lack of effort when I work bloody hard, put everyone else before me and make sure to make Father's Day special, but such is life I suppose.

No - I am normally working this day (due to the way my shifts are) but this year I had it off and boom - got bloody COVID. Been in bed all day and feel crap.