Sad - New job & move

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I recently had to make a difficult decision - stay in my current job or take a new one. I took the new one as the money was literally double my old job, but it has involved a move away from my lovely house, my family and my hometown of the last 8 years.

I had to rehome my dear cat with my parents, (hoping to get her back soon, but not sure when), and am living in a serviced apartment whilst I figure out where to rent etc.

And the job is so hard, with no mistakes tolerated. It is week 2 and I feel like I have done and learnt so much already, but there is no allowance for error. Think like surgery - if you get it wrong, consequences are huge.

I have spoken to other people in the job and they all say it is a great one. It seems about 1 or definitely 2 years in, you really enjoy it and it gets better from there. I’m just not sure I will make it that long. I miss my home, I miss my family being nearby and I miss my cat. And I hate feeling paralyzed with terror at work, like any mistake could have major consequences.

Any advice? Anyone been in the same boat? I miss my old life so much.

I don't have any advice OP but have been through some major life changes myself recently including starting a new job which I really hate so just wanted to send some sympathy. Take it one day at a time. I have given myself a cut off date in my head that I'm going to hack the new job until. If I still feel the same by that date I am going to look for something else. Transitions are always difficult. I hope you start to feel more settled soon.

Thank you @Herald44 I should try and do that too. I know it is only 2 weeks and I have had a big move and a new job in that time, but it just feels so awful.

I did this for the money and to improve my quality of life and future prospects, but at the moment it feels like my life is worse as I worry all the time about the job.

I also hope you start to feel more settled soon, too.

Doubling your income is a huge achievement and will set probably you up for more opportunities in the future even if you don't stay in it forever.

You've only just begun. Give the new job and area a proper chance before you think about quitting. It will almost certainly get better. Can family come and visit you in your new area?

Thanks @Dunrobin, it is a huge professional achievement for me, and the longer I stay in the role it will (as a single woman), help secure my financial future. It’s just very difficult. I hope it’s just early days in the job, coupled with a move somewhere new, which is always unsettling.

Family say they will visit, but haven’t committed just yet, as I need to find a place to live first.

It helps to try and focus on one day at a time, instead of how unhappy I am generally. And to try and see the bigger picture about how it will even fit me. Thank you for your advice.

You’ve had a lot of major changes so I can understand it’s unsettling
I think it’s a bit early to decide it’s all a big mistake just yet though.
Stick with it for a couple of months and then see how you feel

That is a lot of stresses at once. Understandable you’re finding it hard!

If the job pressure remains high, and/or your thoughts and feelings affect how you are day to day, would seek outside support eg counselling. Some employers offer subsidies.

What is giving you the impression that any mistakes will be punished? Have the organisation provided you with the resources and info you need to perform well?