Mother’s Day support thread

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Anyone else secretly struggling today? Since I had more DC, no one seems to remember the dd I had who died when she was a toddler. Not a single friend or family member will say anything. I’m used to it now but still find it frustrating, its like she didn’t exist and I didn’t exist as a mum then.

Anyone else find today difficult? I’m hiding away drinking a lukewarm cuppa and croissant then will be back to life at 100 miles an hour with 2 toddlers. What are you doing to distract yourself today?

I have two teens and a 4 year old.

For the 18th year in a row my shit of a DH had made zero effort. And when I mean zero effort I mean not even acknowledgment of the day never mind a card.

My 4 year old made a card at school and she loves me to bits so that’s nice.
But it really makes you feel like you must have failed somewhere along the years. I must be a really really shit mother.

Every year I tell myself- I will not acknowledge Father’s Day as payback. Yet every year I buy cards and gifts and make a big fuss.

I wish I could travel back in time and start again.

Hope you are ok. That doesn’t sound great. You look after yourself and think of your baby.

Sorry youre struggling OP. Do they know how you feel? Wrongly sometimes people don't know whether you want them to speak about and ask. I have 2 friends, 1 lost their beautiful son when he was 4 years old and absolutely is very clear they don't want to speak about him unless they initiate the conversation- another lost their son when he was 1 and love talking about him and have been open with people that they're happy with that. As everyone grieves, remembers differently although people should know, talk to them about it. Unless there's a back story with all of them I bet they'd hate to know their (in)action was causing you heartbreak; they won't have forgotten about her.

Second mother's day without my mum.

It's still hard. I'm a mother without a mother.

I think losses can become very poignant on this day and people forget that.

I hope you are okay

I’m sorry. My youngest daughter died when she was a baby so today is always a day that I could do without, even though I have other children and a thoughtful DH. It’s just a day I’d rather avoid altogether.

Laid up in bed with COVID.

I am struggling today

I'm so sorry, op. Would you like to tell us about her?

I have had a loss before and yes, sometimes it feels like because I have two children who are alive the one I loss doesn’t matter.

Whilst I am very grateful for my children, it doesn’t mean the loss doesn’t hurt.