Fed up or am I being an arse?

[MrsHugget]

I'm annoyed at DH. He's asked his mum (not mine) round for Mother's Day tomorrow and asked me to make cream tea "because it's so expensive to buy"
He's now preparing the garden - but whenever he does a house job, he completely absolves himself from any regular house stuff/ child care/ meals/ dog walking.
I've got to go shopping for ingredients and bake cakes (scones tomorrow on the actual day which is MY Mother's Day too) buy the mums flowers and I know he's not bought me a card (I've bought his for his mum).
He's being so selfish isn't he?? I'm at Tesco in the car park and going to buy myself some flowers and fizz

Brava! Enjoy your ice cream and your time with your Mum tomorrow

Mother’s Day is the one day of the year when you don’t need to lift a single finger all day.

Tell him no - you will happily eat the food he prepares but you won’t be shopping, cooking or cleaning.

If he changes his mind and decides to un-invite his mum and order a takeaway then fine but stick to your guns.

Good to read. Enjoy your day tomorrow.

Sorry missed your update. Good on you OP.

By the way I work full time too. And do more hours than he does ! Yet ultimately her and her husband totally believe that's my choice as long as I still keep house like I don't work. I don't. DH does do house stuff like laundry and cleaning but is utterly thoughtless unless it comes to organising stuff for his own friends when he manages to pull it out the bag with cool gifts. I simply don't matter as much it seems.

Right. I'm not being a martyr.

Good for you! So are his parents still coming round and now you’re not going to be there? What’s he planning to feed them?!

Why does the poster need to know?

Just saying as from experience that is how I previously ended up with the mental load even when I was not doing the doing.

If I don’t ask for the details I don’t need to concern myself about what has been done/sorted or not.

I'll beat my mum's. Hell no doubt spend on shop bought. Not my problem now. I'll be thought of badly byMIL but I'm getting past it

She raised the entitled fucker. Let her deal with his lack of thought. Not a care you should give op.
Hardly an appealing bloke imo.