Separation anxiety from my twin.

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Recently began house hunting with my partner & my anxiety is through the roof about leaving my twins side. We are very close & have never not lived together, we moved away for college together & returned from college and have since lived in an apartment together. My anxiety is all based around her needing me, me needing her, what if she doesn’t find a partner herself & I leave her alone, my brain is going 100 miles an hour with all the what if’s!

Has any other twins felt they can’t separate? 🤦🏼‍♀️

I'm not a twin so have no direct experience of it but codependency in general is absolutely something that can be worked on and isn't exclusive to being a twin, nor is fear of abandonment or feeling responsible for someone elses happiness and that causing anxiety.

Maybe it would be helpful to find a counsellor or therapist to talk it all over with and unpack it all a little. That depth of love and codependency can be wonderful in ways but can hold you both back in others.

Caring for someone and wanting to maintain a close relationship isn't necessarily the same as being responsible for them as a parent would be. There is room for you both to have portions of life that are separate and to celebrate what that looks like, celebrate each others achievements and milestones and so on. It isn't you and her against the world, it's you and her together in a world of opportunities, taking them as they come and celebrating them when they do.