holidaying alone

[essexgirl58]

There was a thread on this subjet but it was a couple of years old and I i not think anyone would read my reply so I made a new thread. I am going on holiday alone this year. People on the other thread highly recommend it. However someone pointd out to me that it can be lonely because when you go somewhere you have nobody to share the experience with. You have nobody with you to say oh what do you thin of this or look at that over there isnt it nice.

I told a friend of mine what I was doing about a holiday and she has suddenly said she wants to come with me. She is a friend but I want to go on holiday by myself and she cannot understand that. I told her when I was going and she has said she wants to go on the same flight as me. She said to me what time is your flight. I said oh I cant remember. Then today she said she has booked herself on the flight which incidentally is the same time as mine. Previously she said that she could never go on holiday on her own. Does she think we will go around together? I do not want that. I kept telling her and she said have you changed your mind about me coming and I said no I have not an the next thing I know she tells me she has booked herself onto the flight. I asked her why and she totally ignored my question and went on and on about what size suitcase she was taking an how much spening money she was taking and so on.

Not sure if this is a wind up but if it is, it is very childish. Does she think she can meet me at the airport and say oh can we go around together on the holiday, because I made it clear its not whaat I want to do.

I would never do this to someone who clearly stated they wanted to go on holiday alone. She even went as far to say to me her brother said he would take her to the airport. I said if this is a wind up then I dont think I can speak to you again.

I think she is mad to be honest. I told her she was trying to muscle in and of all the flights to book (assuming this is not a wind up) she has to book herself on the same flight as the one I am going on.

I really do not like it

Don’t tell her where your accommodation is - assuming it’s a sizeable destination then there is a good chance you won’t bump into her.

She must have a thick skin if you’ve told her you don’t want company so many times.

She sounds crazy. I’d be changing my flight if I were you, if that’s not an expensive/difficult option.

Or just tell her you’ve decided to swap destinations and you’re now going to X place, maybe she’ll rebook her holiday there

Wow, she’s really desperate to go on holiday with you —- or has a very juvenile sense of humour.
I agree with pp, don’t tell her your accommodation and do your own thing. Ignore any texts or calls.
Have a great time , I’ve been on holidays by myself and never had a problem, just really enjoyed myself.

Very strange, perhaps she simply can't understand why anyone would travel alone and thinks you secretly wish she'd come.

Same flight or not it doesn't mean you're obligated to actually holiday with her. I'd have a (calm, friendly) conversation about it before it happens or it will end very badly IMO, if boundaries and expectations aren't laid out now.

Urgh, that's verging on stalker behaviour.

@Xpologog

Wow, she’s really desperate to go on holiday with you —- or has a very juvenile sense of humour. I agree with pp, don’t tell her your accommodation and do your own thing. Ignore any texts or calls. Have a great time , I’ve been on holidays by myself and never had a problem, just really enjoyed myself.

She is not desparete to go on holiday with me. I think this is a wind u

How bizarre. If it's a joke then just ignore. If she's in any way serious I'd be making very clear that she's not wanted

Treat it as a joke then and smile when she next mentions it and say 'good April Fool but a bit early!' say she had you going for a minute there and that you'll send her a postcard (don't!). Perhaps distance yourself from her a bit in the future if she finds this sort of behaviour entertaining?

You think it’s a joke in that she’s telling you she’s going but actually isn’t, or that it’s a joke to gate crash your holiday? Neither are ok but how I’d respond would change depending.

I'd tell her I'd cancelled the holiday and that you hope she enjoys her self 🤣

well I have blocked her from my phone because I was fed up with her going on about what she was taking on holiday and where she was staying and what price the flight was and when I asked her why she was telling me she was going despite my telling her I did not want her to come, she totally ignored me and carried on by saying in text oh im taking my medium size suitcase and I will get my toiletries next week and no need for a hairdryer. She will be unbloked a week before I go which is in 4 weeks time an she will probably unblok me also.

I have known her for years and I do not thin this is friendly behaviour and she has the audacity to complain to me about a friend of hers who behaves in a strange way. What does she think she is doing? Behaving in a strange way. Now I have had time to process it, I am actually laughing and feel sorry for her. She must be bored

I have a male friend who often tries to invite himself along to things. I sometime treat it as a joke “well you’d be welcome but it’s a girls day so the dress code is skirts and heels…” and other times have point blank told him he’s not invited.

You don't really sound like friends at all! Will your life actually be improved by unblocking her?

FFS

I'd be be so pissed off about this. Is she always so self involved?

@BanjoKnockers

You don't really sound like friends at all! Will your life actually be improved by unblocking her?

We have been friends since our late teens. We did everything together. Now years later we want different things out of life. I did block her about three years ago when she said some rude things about me. Then I thought I would unblok her because we have been friends for too manay years for me to stop having contact with her altogether. The other day we met up for dinner and had a really nice evening, so we can get along really well on occasions but then she goes and does something like this