Can my DH (different name) take my 14DD abroad?

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I kept my maiden name and my DD has my surname. My husband wants to take my DD for a few days to Spain. Will he be allowed to fly with her? Do I need to give written permission?!
Also what should happen about hotel rooms? She's quite young and naive and I don't want her in a room alone, on the other hand, sharing with your Dad is a bit meh isn't it?
Anyone reassure me or know about this?

Yes of course
He needs to take a photocopy of the birth certificate. I would get two hotel rooms next to each other.

I’ve done this loads with my younger sisters who have a different name to me. My mum always writes a note giving her contact details as permission but no one has ever asked to see it. They’ve all been under 16 at the time.

I actually did get questioned once coming back on the Eurostar with my family a few years back as I’m the only one with a different name. The guy at passport control had an issue with it before my mum pointed out I was actually 25 and could travel by myself if I wanted!

This has never been an issue for us. My girls stepfather take them on holiday abroad every year (without me). Checkin staff will ask the girls "who is this?" and they say Dad! Never an issue and never needed a letter so I should think it will be fine.

I got stopped in Denmark and asked if I had a letter from my husband giving permission to take the kids abroad. They have the same name as me. 🤔

I think Spain is one of the countries that can be very cautious about the movement of children so it's probably best to write a letter saying that you give your permission for your child to travel with his/her father (name, passport number) on flight number xxxx from yyyy to zzzz and return on flight number etc or any alternative travel arrangements if necessary. Sign with your name, your passport number, contact phone number and also have a photocopy of your passport name page. Your DH should also have an original copy of your DD's birth cert.

I have a different surname to my DC and am almost always asked for their birth certs (adoption certs in our case).

We started travelling with a letter from DH saying he knew we were going to the UK for 3 weeks before returning, and gave HIS passport number and phone number. I then also took a copy of his passport.

I have travelled with my nephew, and both DS and DD1 have travelled with BIL to Spain. We all have the same surname which helps, however I always send a letter giving permission, statin where the6are staying and setting out medical treatment proxy,

It’s never been asked for.

I did once point out to BIL when we were on a trip together from Spain to Morocco that neither of us had sought our spouses permission to take our kids to Africa!

It's quite normal to share a room with a parent at that age. Maybe provide a letter giving permission and include your contact details

Assuming your DD is also your husbands biological child?

I honestly can’t see what is ‘meh’ about them sharing a room.

My ds travels with my dp to Spain a couple of times a year, I always give dp a letter with copies of birth cert and my passport and my contact details, never been asked. I was contemplating if I needed to do it for their next trip, think I will

Yes, you need a consent letter.
Check the gov UK pages.
He might be stopped, he might not.
A man travelling alone with a teenage girl is about a trillion times more likely to be stopped than a woman. Obviously. It's in the Border Control guidelines. Single male travelling with child= check it.
I travel a lot alone with DD and am asked about 50% of the time for the consent letter.

At 14 I'm sure she will want her own bed, but a hotel room in Spain (probably with a sofa bed?) will be fine. Have recently shared a room away just with a son of the same age. I got changed in the bathroom.

@Rainbowshit

I got stopped in Denmark and asked if I had a letter from my husband giving permission to take the kids abroad. They have the same name as me. 🤔

Yes, the different surname is really irrelevant. What Border Control look for is one adult travelling alone with a minor. Obviously if that adult then turns out to also have a different surname when stopped, then they're going to ask for evidence of the relationship and that the adult has consent.

Regarding the hotel, we've done interconnecting rooms with our teens.
He just needs to contact any hotels he's considering to check they have these.

I’ve got different surname to my DD
We’ve been stopped at passport checks
I now take birth certificate!!

Just take the birth certificate.

I have a different name to my children - I carry the court order that states I am the resident parent and their birth certificates. No one has ever asked to see them. I did have a passport control person once ask my eldest child who I was but that has been the only hint of an issue in many years travelling with them.

DD was asked a few times when she was younger for her date of birth and who she was travelling with, and we have same name (and look alike), so I do think the name is a bit of a red herring, it's more a child travelling with an adult not a family group. I always too a letter from my exH up to her bring 16 but didn't bother after that, no one ever asked to see it, just asked her to confirm her ID and who I was.

This happens more coming back into the UK rather than leaving and has only happened abroad in the USA.

Here are the govt guidelines.
www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad
If you are stopped, and only have a birth certificate, it won't be enough. All that proves is your relationship not that you have consent to take the child abroad.
You can download template letters.

You should also check requirements of the other country as the consent letter may be legally mandatory and need to be notarised.

The name is a red herring. Border control use their discretion to decide who to stop. XH shares a surname with DS but was stopped and asked for my phone number and they called me to check I agreed - I assume because of his nationality (not british) and my DS being British. Could also have been a bit of racism. Who knows. I've never been asked for proof he consents but I've been asked for the birth certificate lots of times since we don't share a surname.

We always gave the other spouse a letter stating that we are aware of the trip and giving our consent, it was never asked for.

Regarding the room - I would look for a hotel with interconnecting doors or a two bedroom one. Depending on her height/weight, she may be ok with sleeping on a sofa bed. More expensive but I know DD wouldn't be happy sharing a room for more than a night with DH.