Mother’s Day Plans

[SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows]

What’s everyone up to? I’m feeling a bit sad as DD13 is becoming more aware of her adoption & said the other day that Mother’s Day & Father’s Day trigger her. DH & I do so much for her & I can’t help being resentful. She did absolutely nothing last year & Sunday will no doubt be the same. I can at least visit my lovely Mum with a card & daffodils.

Just seen there’s already a thread about this.

It's ok to start your own thread. Ignore anyone who moans.

Your situation sounds sad. Hopefully once your DD's teenage hormones settle she'll start doing things again for you & your DH.

I lost my mum on February 28th so Sunday will be a bit different. We'll go & see MIL then going for a meal - just DH, DS & I, which will be nice.

iklboo so sorry about your Mum 💐💐💐

Anyone else?

That’s sad, I’m sorry you’re not going to get the Mother’s Day you would like.

It’s my first Mother’s Day this year, my boy is (nearly) 5 months old. My husband will be working. I’m really disappointed to be honest, but it can’t be helped. He starts at 7ish and doesn’t get home til 9/10 at the earliest, and hasn’t had a day off for three weeks already and certainly won’t any time soon. Such is the joy of his particular job role.
MIL is off to see DHs brother and children so won’t see her. My own mum apparently has a day out planned with my brother and his children. I think me and my boy are going to go out for the day, maybe the donkey sanctuary. I always liked it there as a child and let’s be honest, it’ll be more for me than him!

MrsTimPiggins I’m sad for you. Your first Mother’s Day should be special. I wonder why your DM hasn’t invited you out with your DB’s family? And it’s such a shame your DH has to work. The donkey sanctuary sounds lovely though. I love donkeys!

Sending lots of love today @SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows, happy Mother’s Day, hope you have a lovely time seeing your mum x

It is a bit sad. My relationship with my mum unfortunately can be.. difficult at times but I’ve learned to just accept it for what it is. As for my husband, it’s bloody rubbish that he’s not going to be here today, but he has managed a card, flowers and a lovely gift so I feel much better than I might’ve.
And donkeys are really wonderful, the sun is shining and my little boy is still snoozing allowing me to have a latte in the garden in peace so I feel quite lucky despite it all.

Well I am just about to make my own cup of tea, before driving one of the kids to an all day activity then I’ll come home and be the cleaning fairy for the rest of them. One is ill with covid so although intended to get me a card and little gift hasn’t been out the house for days, one will not have registered and possibly the little one will have got a card. Dh is away so I imagine has texted them.
Will be dropping my mums card and gift to her but due to covid risk and her being vulnerable will be doing a doorstep drop !

I always have mixed feelings about Mother's Day, my own Mum is fab and never made a big thing about it.

I take her flowers, random gifts throughout the year. Can be anything from a packet of her favourite tea to a pair of tights.

I've carried this on and don't expect much from the DCs, they know I prefer random things in the year. Youngest DC bought me some sweets last week, as he thought I needed cheering up. I did and it meant a lot.

DMIL on the other hand...

Tbf she is 13. The teenage years are cruel and you can’t really hold it against her.

Why has her dad not taken her to a shop to get things for you on Mothers Day?

Hi OP , have social care ever done any Lifestory work with your DD ? As painful as it is what she’s experiencing is very normal for adopted children and something you should have been prepared for in your prepare to care training.
Whilst none of this makes it any easier it will help her with answers she’s after.

I am with spring and enjoy random appreciation throughout the year more. Can you think of lovely times that you have had with your DD, perhaps been appreciated or your parenting has made a difference. You could note things down and read on Mother's day. Do understand it's hard and a bunch of daffs would help

Happy Mothers Day everyone. For me, it’s mixed emotions, having lost my DM a long time ago and my MIL 5 years ago. I remember some lovely days with them. My own DS’s one is very good and gets me lovely gifts, the other doesn’t do cards or presents, which bothered me at first as he used to get me really nice things, he will say happy mothers day. DH and DS are going to cinema and I’m cooking lunch for all of us later. I’m luckier than some and I appreciate that.

HeDidWhatt DH had considered taking DD to get something but she would have refused to even write a card & I kind of thought if it’s not her idea, it just doesn’t feel the same. She made so much effort when she was younger, which was lovely.

Cupcakegirl13 DD has a life story book but hasn’t been to any workshops etc. I know she goes through a range of emotions. She finds Fathers Day very tough as the identity of her birth Dad is unknown ( the guy people suspected is her Dad refused to take any responsibility).