Need advice he just threw glass at me

Annaisinthecity · 2022-03-25T00:18:04+00:00

Really feeling lost. Just told my partner I don’t want sex and he’s thrown a glass at me and smashed all photos on stairs. We have two children, I am really scared.

PaniniHead · 25/03/2022 00:19

Call the police

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/03/2022 00:20

Either he leaves or you leave.
Phone the police.

FetchezLaVache · 25/03/2022 00:20

As above xx

PurpleDaisies · 25/03/2022 00:21

Ring the police.

Tulipdays · 25/03/2022 00:22

Call the police. Now.
Please keep yourself and your kids safe.

AHungryCaterpillar · 25/03/2022 00:22

Police

Holothane · 25/03/2022 00:37

Police there’s glass everywhere your in danger.

Raera · 25/03/2022 00:37

Call the police love

Waterfordaston · 25/03/2022 00:40

Call the police. Do it.

RustyShackleford3 · 25/03/2022 05:39

999 right now

carefullycourageous · 25/03/2022 05:54

Firstly this is a huge shock and you must feel very upset and frightened. Knowing how to react is very hard when threatened.

I agree with suggestions above to call the Police, as this is violence in the home. I advise 999 as you are legitimately afraid and there are children in the house.

implantreplace · 25/03/2022 09:55

I had a glass of water thrown at me
Then it was a few years of nothing more physics but lots of toys kicked, electronics smashed, walls punched
Then o had a pint of milk poured over me at 8 months pregnant
Then again nothing more for a few years beside more kicked toys and punched walls and smashed plates

Finally - I left. I’d never thought I was being abused until I had therapy and realise that even though it was punches to the face - it WAS abuse

implantreplace · 25/03/2022 09:55

wasn’t punches

sunflowermadness · 25/03/2022 10:11

@Annaisinthecity are you okay this morning Op?

I agree with the other posters the behaviour is unacceptable, dangerous and the best thing to do in this case with children in the house is to call the police and get him taken away from the property.

Is he always like this? I'm sorry to hear what you are going through

Original poster

Annaisinthecity · 25/03/2022 12:33

I am still ok. Find it really hard to talk to my friends about this… it’s very isolating. I have told him if he will go for counselling I’ll stay but have mixed feelings. I rang police before when he did something similar and I had taken recording, he forcibly took phone from me and deleted. Police interviewed me under caution as tiny scratch on his hand from where I’d tried to take my phone back as he pulled from my hands (I’m a lot smaller so was pushed aside and recording deleted) I was too ashamed to tell them what had been going on and now scared to involve them. This morning he told me I had to apologise and was angry I hadn’t cleared up the glass. Was shouting he would kill us all. As I write this I know I’m mad to stay, feel very trapped.

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GrumpyPanda · 25/03/2022 12:41

This is getting worse and worse. Do call police and also tell them the truth about the first incident. Also, depending on when this happened deleted files can be recovered.

MalbecandToast · 25/03/2022 12:42

Oh my love you need to leave, you aren't safe and the risk of his behaviour escalating is high. Please take your children and go

KELLOGSspeck · 25/03/2022 12:44

How old are your kids OP? I think it's too late for Counciling think of the kids.

Are your parents near by? A friend?

Sundancerintherain · 25/03/2022 12:46

He has told you his intentions. Please, please get out of there and call the police.

Original poster

Annaisinthecity · 25/03/2022 12:46

6 and 8. Yes family very supportive, no one really knows how bad it is. I’ve tried to talk about it.

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SparkleSpangle · 25/03/2022 12:47

It's never too late to report it. You can do it online. The police will be understanding, unfortunately they hear it all the time.

TheBigDilemma · 25/03/2022 12:51

Ok, the longer you stay there the more likely it is that you cannot ever leave. You are conditioned to put up with the abuse, he has told you he will kill you and your children, stop trying, just do, call the police and accept all the help you can from your family. You and your kids are in danger, your children are already carrying the trauma of witnessing their mum being abused, you don’t want them growing up thinking this is the kind of relationship they should aim for.

Wolfiefan · 25/03/2022 12:53

Counselling isn’t a good idea when you have an abusive partner. You need to get out.

Aknifewith16blades · 25/03/2022 12:55

Call Women's Aid OP; you can go to any pharmacy and they will let you use their consulting room as a safe space to make the call.

RainyBrays · 25/03/2022 17:02

@Annaisinthecity

I am still ok. Find it really hard to talk to my friends about this… it’s very isolating. I have told him if he will go for counselling I’ll stay but have mixed feelings. I rang police before when he did something similar and I had taken recording, he forcibly took phone from me and deleted. Police interviewed me under caution as tiny scratch on his hand from where I’d tried to take my phone back as he pulled from my hands (I’m a lot smaller so was pushed aside and recording deleted) I was too ashamed to tell them what had been going on and now scared to involve them. This morning he told me I had to apologise and was angry I hadn’t cleared up the glass. Was shouting he would kill us all. As I write this I know I’m mad to stay, feel very trapped.

Omg please leave. Don't tell him. Just grab the kids and get out if there and I'm not one to say that lightly.

Of you can then call the police and ask how you can leave safely but leave you must. This is not a relationship that can be salvaged. I think you might be in danger. Please leave.