Help me word this wedding RSVP...

[JorisBonson]

An old friend is having a destination wedding in September. She lives abroad, we haven't seen each other in a few years and haven't spoken for about a year.

Between work, annual leave, money and a family destination wedding in June we just can't make it work.

How can I word this? I've never declined an invitation before.

Just say you’re unable to attend but you wish them a wonderful, happy day and you hope to be able to catch up soon.

Realistically, she probably isn’t expecting you to attend given what you’ve said about how frequently you’re in touch.

Thank you very much for your generous invitation, however, unfortunately we/I will be unable to attend. We hope you have a wonderful day.

Dear friend, I am so sorry, but I won't be able to attend your wedding.

I do hope you both have a wonderful day, and look forward to seeing lots of photos

Love Joris

You never have to give a reason for not wanting to go to something.

Thank you for the lovely invite, we are not able to attend but hope you have a wonderful day and we look forward to hearing g about it and seeing photographs.

What ^^said.

I think it's been covered already but you really don't need to justify it or worry about it OP. They obviously already know a destination wedding is a large cost and commitment, everyone does and therefore will presumably get quite a lot of passes from those they invited anyway.

I'd thank them, say you are unable to make it but wish them all the best and a lovely wedding day. Send a card etc nearer the date if you like, or not if you aren't planning to maintain the friendship.