Money matters

[Fabclog]

Hi my husband has taken on a lad who is just out of his apprenticeship he takes home £900 a fortnight my husband has just given him £525 bonus I had already told him not to he gets his wages I think it’s way to much

And...

Surely it’s your husband’s professional decision to make, if he’s working for your husband? The apprentice must be making a good impression.

I assume your DH is some sort of tradesman? Builder, plumber etc?

Whether or not the bonus is reasonable depends on many things, such as how well the business is doing, how good this lad is, what wages are in the trade and how much your DH wants to keep him.

The value of a bonus is that it's not fixed, it's an extra that doesn't have to be paid if the business profit goes down or the lad doesn't work effectively, or has spurious sick days off, or whatever. It might also encourage him to stay with your DH rather than go somewhere else that offers better T&Cs.

But obviously if your DH isn't even earning that amount himself or the lad is a slacker who turns up late, hungover or not at all, then it could well be 'way too much'.

Do you work for the business too/are you a director, or is it just DH?

He gives me a set amount of housekeeping £350 a week and would never give me any extra and I’ve just caught him cheating on various websites fabguys

You're upset about the cheating.
Giving him a bonus is not unreasonable.
£350 to me is tons but I suppose that depends on how much he makes.

LTB for cheating, you're protecting your upset onto something else.

My husband is a sole trader the lad hasn’t been working with him long and I’m struggling to pay the bills with what he gives me

Projecting

I agree that the bonus is not the issue.

Obviously the cheating is likely to be a dealbreaker.

Whether or not £350 is reasonable depends on your household income and what it has to cover. But if you're 'struggling to pay the bills' and he's keeping you short of money that the household finances can afford, and he has more money available himself then it sounds like he's also financially abusive.

Time to LTB?

It covers rent water council tax gas electric food his wages vary but he earns double what he gives me

Concentrate on the cheating, not the bonus.

Your husband is a shit husband but it's nothing to do with the lad that works for him or how much he pays him.

This is nothing to do with the employee’s wages.
Your husband earns £700 per week and half of this is spent on household expenses. Presumably he keeps the other half.
And he cheats.
Your problem is how your husband treats you, not how he treats his employee.
As I type this they are talking on the news about how people are going to struggle with increased costs of bills and food shopping.
Has he discussed this with you i.e. increasing your household budget?
Or is he happy to see you struggling when he can easily change things.
If he wants to.

@Fabclog

He gives me a set amount of housekeeping £350 a week and would never give me any extra and I’ve just caught him cheating on various websites fabguys

Is he cheating with the apprentice?

@NursieBernard

Your husband is a shit husband but it's nothing to do with the lad that works for him or how much he pays him.

This. He obviously works cash in hand. You won't get a penny when you eventually decide to get rid of him. It's time for ducks in a row and all of that.

Is he cheating with the apprentice?

Sounds like it, or at least that he’d like to be.

No he doesn’t work cash in hand he’s been doing 38 years and I am married to him for 20 odd

And what do you do @Fabclog why should he give you anything? Why don't you work??

Care for someone and if he didn’t give me anything he wouldn’t have a roof over his head

Looking for some financial advice really.

My parents own their own home but are getting to the stage where they may have to move onto their next chapter of life.

One option is to move in with us. We have space and it could be done with a few adaptations. They would pay for this out of their savings.

They would then sell this house and bank the money.

Can anyone tell me the downfalls or tax implications if this was the route they do down.

Thank you.

Hi,

It's best if you start your own thread, @Borntobeamum

If you scroll up to the top, click on 'start new thread' and ask your question in the box that appears.

Best of luck.

@Borntobeamum you would be better starting your own thread

Oh I’m so sorry! I thought I had 🤦‍♀️