My DH is quiet which is fine as I am too. But he hardly talks to me. I can go days even weeks without a proper conversation if I didn't initiate it. I just get one or two word answers and he doesn't even make eye contact when he does. Hes just staring at the computer which is how he spends most evenings after work. He regularly ignores me if I ask a question and just doesn't answer me. The only time he gives me positive attention is when he wants sex. He completely denies this but it's so obvious.
He hardly talks to the kids too. I spend all the time with them. If we spend time together as a family it's because I've asked him to join. He will if he feels like it but usually does a quick exit if possible.
I catch myself looking at fathers with their kids at the park / school / shops / anywhere and how they interact with them - just normal everyday stuff, chatting , teasing, being silly and my heart sinks. My kids get a dad who hardly talks to them and is moody. There's no laughter in my home. I hate it. Its making me feel so frustrated and sad.
I've spoken to him about it but he gets offended and says that's who he is / I'm too sensitive / I'm expecting too much / what do I want from him - leave him alone. I can't bring it up and don't anymore but nothing changes. He feels I am completely making a big deal about it. I don't know how to get him to understand that his behaviour is destroying our marriage. I feel so lonely. I find it exhausting.