so ive had my first baby, and im trying my best to raise her how i would like to, i live with my MIL and she is always telling how she raised her son and how it is completely different in how i am raising my daughter, also always telling me how and what i should do for her, that i dress her like a doll becuase i put in her girls clothing.
today was the worse day, not only did she judge how i was parenting and telling me how to doit, but my partner then agreed with her, told me that i dont let him have a say in how we are raising our childm yet i always try include him in everything that i do.
i just feel like im letting my daughter down everytime i dont do it how they are telling me to, i feel like i shouldnt be a mother because im making so many mistakes and that i am going to ruin her future. It doesnt matter what i do how i try tp do things there is always comments on how i am doing them.
how do i talk to my MIL without getting into big fights about how i am raising my child?