If Mother’s Day means a lot to you and you’re expecting a crap partner to step up..

[ConfusedByDesign]

Please organise something yourself.
It’s so sad reading all the disappointed and sad messages on Sunday
I’ve been in this situation and used to rope my Dcs in with making a ‘Mother’s Day’ cake or going for a ‘Mother’s Day’ outing just so they knew they were taking part and putting some importance on the day.
I Hope everyone has a lovely day.

If you are not a single mum though, why would you not expect your life partner who supposedly loves you to help your children show their appreciation for you?

I do agree with op though. If you know he won’t abs your kids can’t don’t be sad, show your kids a good example by appreciating yourself. And consider why he won’t abs what it says about him.

@bluejelly

Or take control and ditch the rubbish partner...

But are they rubbish, just because they don't make a massive fuss on Mother's Day? If they're kind, decent, pull their weight, pay their share, is it really worth being upset and leaving them if they don't buy a card from the kids to you?

Some people either CAN'T or WON'T understand how someone else feels.
You need to decide which it is of these as its important.
My ex was CANT. I thought it was WONT for years and it really upset me until I realised it was that he genuinely couldn't understand how someone could feel differently about something. It was overall a deal breaker for me as it permeated loads of areas in our lives. But I now know that 75% of the time he wasn't being deliberately horrible or careless he just didn't understand what I wanted or needed. I had to train him on Birthdays etc. He didn't realise mothers day was a thing. He doesn't have a mother still alive.
If it's WONT or if he's not prepared to listen or understand then you have actual problems as that's just nasty. Why wouldn't you make effort to make the person you are with happy even if not your bag.
People are wired differently... so just consider what it is. In my case the CANT wasn't what I wanted from life. It was too rigid and lonely. But each to their own. My ex is better with someone who shares the same energy levels (he's also crap at understanding the DCs emotions too..but loves them dearly).

@Nomoresmoresthensnores my dh was ‘cant’ as well. He also saw me as someone who got on with things and wasn’t materialistic and didn’t actually get that small gestures meant a lot.
That’s often the theme of the disappointed posts on mother’s days. The posters were only ever wanting a small gesture of acknowledgement or a simple token but feel ignored.