As above, not sure which subject is best for this post.
I have two DCs, DD is 'developing' and ds is slightly younger
DD doesn't like closed doors, bath or bedroom (some anxiety/ neurodiversity)
so is not private when undressing, bathing etc
As her body is changing I'm conflicted about asking her to cover up, I've just gently reminded her to put a top on etc or close the door (she will cover up if I ask her too but straight no on the doors)
She sometimes walks around undressed , mainly from bathroom to bedroom or when poorly lies downstairs under blanket but maybe just in underwear.
This is only in the home with us and obviously not constantly , I am not sure how to approach this if at all.
I'm sure it will naturally happen in time where she wants more privacy, as she's starting to become more self conscious.
I don't want to confuse my ds either as he is becoming naturally more curious about sex , bodies etc and by questions he asks it's clear he's getting a playground education on the subject.
He also has some anxiety and neurodiversity.
I grew up in a very scary chaotic environment.
My mother had zero boundaries when it came to hers or our nakedness and would talk very openly about sex that we weren't ready to hear about, including details about her own experiences plus I was exposed to a LOT.
She kept very unsavoury company with many creepy boyfriends and I was very vulnerable as a child and it's really impacted on me, especially since becoming a parent to the point where I can barely trust any men anymore.
I don't know if I'm overthinking this but do I need to say/ do more or just let her come to it naturally?
One part of me is happy that she feels safe and free in her own home.
I don't want to teach my children guilt or shame about their bodies but I also want to make sure I'm doing the right thing in terms of keeping them safe.
Any suggestions gratefully received!