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Fucking anxiety

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MargeSimpson00 · 20/03/2022 22:15

No one would know I have it. I have friends who suffer terribly with it and I'm always the one to ground them. I'm doing really well at work, constantly praised by my manager yet I feel like a fraudster, like I'm about to make a major fuck up somewhere. Found out today a relative isn't very happy we left a family wedding before the end even though we had very legitimate reasons and I can't stop stewing over it. A friend hasn't messaged me for ages and I'm losing sleep over what I've done to upset them. I know it's all irrational but I can't help it. No point to this post other than a rant really, anxiety is a fucker!

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Skyblueclouds77 · 20/03/2022 22:22

I hear you, I'm the same. It's exhausting!!

Skyblueclouds77 · 20/03/2022 22:23

I tend to overthink everything to epic proportions, drive myself mad.

FlissyPaps · 20/03/2022 22:39

Understand this completely OP. I’m similar, have had anxiety since childhood but always been able to deal with it. I’m always the type to listen to everyone else and others unload their shit on me.

Only recently my anxiety has peaked and I’ve had to take time off work (due to the physical symptoms: chest pain, trembling, sweating) and been on medication. I’ve confided in a couple of my closest friends and they have been really supportive. So it’s a bit of a relief for me that they now understand how I truly feel. I wish I’d have reached out sooner.

Also, I know easier said than done, but ignore the family member who wasn’t happy about you leaving a wedding early. Literally f**ck what they think. When you’re ready to leave, you can leave. Some people get pissy over the most ridiculous things.

Your friend who hasn’t messaged, just reach out to them. (I can be really bad with my phone and messaging if I’m going through a depressive episode). I’d never intentionally want to upset any of my friends if I haven’t been in touch for a while. But your friend could be going through something similar. Just a simple “Hey, just hoping you’re okay, if you fancy catching up soon let me know”.

Mondaymanic · 21/03/2022 00:04

May not be relevant to you but my anxiety disappeared when I came off the pill. It was absolutely horrible. I can think so much clearer now and don't stew on things.

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MargeSimpson00 · 21/03/2022 07:21

Thank you. Whilst it's good to not be alone, I'm sorry there's so much of it out there. Feel like it's just constantly bubbling away in the background, so annoying.

@Mondaymanic I'm not on the pill but hopefully that will be useful for someone else on here Flowers

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MegaClutterSlut · 21/03/2022 07:27

Anxiety is indeed a fucker. I don't sleep sometimes the night before work as I'm convinced I've done something wrong and they're going to call me in the office and sack me Confused just wish there was an off switch sometimes because I literally do my own head in!

GeneLovesJezebel · 21/03/2022 07:29

I over think too. I have to push it out of my head and distract myself.

PoxyAndIKnowIt · 21/03/2022 07:35

How old are you, OP? Anxiety can be a huge problem in perimenopause. It was for me, especially when there was something very worrisome going on in my life. HRT has helped me.

Also magnesium and exercise can help. Hope you feel better soon Flowers

SmugglersHaunt · 21/03/2022 07:57

Try CBT - honestly it really helps combat overthinking everything. My mind can go off in catastrophic directions at a moment's notice: about to be sacked, climate change, nuclear war etc etc. I'm doing a free course called Silvercloud (you can probably get referred through your doctor) and it's really helping. Also, the act of trying to manage your anxiety may help in itself. Good luck!

ouch12345 · 21/03/2022 08:03

Have you been to the GP? I know it's not for everyone but I'm on citalopram for anxiety and it has honestly been a lifesaver.

I used to t have the most horrendous anxiety, particularly around social situations as you've described, I worried that people were upset with me for no real reason.

Since being on citalopram my anxiety has improved so much. I still get the odd bout but it's no where near as de habilitating as it used to be. Might be worth a chat?

ouch12345 · 21/03/2022 08:04

Have you been to the GP? I know it's not for everyone but I'm on citalopram for anxiety and it has honestly been a lifesaver.

I used to t have the most horrendous anxiety, particularly around social situations as you've described, I worried that people were upset with me for no real reason.

Since being on citalopram my anxiety has improved so much. I still get the odd bout but it's no where near as de habilitating as it used to be. Might be worth a chat?

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MargeSimpson00 · 21/03/2022 11:36

@MegaClutterSlut

Anxiety is indeed a fucker. I don't sleep sometimes the night before work as I'm convinced I've done something wrong and they're going to call me in the office and sack me Confused just wish there was an off switch sometimes because I literally do my own head in!
I could have written this Grin it's like I know I'm being irrational but can't help it.

I haven't been to the gp, no. I feel like I'll be wasting their time because there are people much worse than me?

I'm 38 so peri could well be a factor.

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