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TW - sexual assault.

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Elleinad0 · 20/03/2022 20:10

I don't really know what my aim is for this post and I want to apologise in advance if this triggers anybody.
I was reading through a thread on here tonight and it was pages and pages of sexual assaults / women in danger from men.

I know not all men blah blah. I'm married to a wonderful man who respects women incredibly. One of the reasons I married him.
I just want to rant as it's an emotional day for me.

8 years ago to the day I was horribly sexually assaulted by an at the time colleague. I won't go into details as it went to court but the whole thing was brutal and has scarred me for life. I was in my absolute dream career. The assault was by a colleague but happened outside of work. It was terrifying and I still have nightmares to this day. I lost the case as it was my word against his the usual.. even though I was marked and there was DNA.

I lost the fucking case. 8 days of court and I lost it.

I'm still heartbroken.

I miss my old career. I can't go back to even the same industry as it's a constant reminder.

He lives in the town next to me and the only thing he fucking got was suspended from work and he never returned.
I don't know why I'm typing this I just want to rant. Our justice system is broken and I'm scared to raise my daughter in this world.

I've just burnt the mince for tonight's chilli and just cried and cried.
I hate today every year.
I hate the justice system.
I hate sexual assault.

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Notanotherwindow · 20/03/2022 20:38

Its unfair. I lost too. Lack of evidence due to it being a historic assault. He was 17 at the time. I was 9. He now works with children. Even after I reported him. Didn't even get suspended.

I find it hard to tar all men with the same brush though. I'm lucky to have some really kind men in my life as friends, colleagues and an amazing therapist who all but carried me through the last 2 years.

Elleinad0 · 20/03/2022 21:08

@Notanotherwindow

Its unfair. I lost too. Lack of evidence due to it being a historic assault. He was 17 at the time. I was 9. He now works with children. Even after I reported him. Didn't even get suspended.

I find it hard to tar all men with the same brush though. I'm lucky to have some really kind men in my life as friends, colleagues and an amazing therapist who all but carried me through the last 2 years.

I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm heartbroken for you. I know what you mean about tarring all blokes. My husband is incredibly respectful and both my brothers and the male friends I have in life are all wonderful men.

You being such a young age when this happened is just heartbreaking. No other words.

I'm so sorry you went through sexual assault too. I really hope you've found happiness and gained strength from the whole thing.
You were so brave to report it. Years on or not. Sending a airborne hug Thanks

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