What do you do when family just isn’t working

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I’m so tired.
Kids (10 and 13) bicker constantly.
Husband works very long hours and work takes up most of his waking headspace.
I’m working, trying to keep up with housework and kids homework and activities
We can’t all be in the same room without some combination falling out.
We don’t have time to do anything with house or garden so they are in a state.
Kids like completely different things (well, eldest doesn’t really like anything except shopping and winding his sister up)
Never get any time with just husband. When we di we’re usually trying to sort out something to do with house or kids.
There is no joy or family connection.
We’re trying to book a holiday but can’t agree on where/what /how much to spend.
I feel like I want to press the reset button and try again but obviously that’s not possible.

Focus on yourself.

Do whatever you need to feel better and regain a little energy.

Can you afford a night in a hotel by yourself? Or two? If so, do it. Husband and kids will be fine.

If you are the one keeping everything going, it makes sense to prioritise you feeling a bit better about things. And then with your renewed energy everything else may fall into place a little
More.

Our family can be like this so I get it.

Actually recently I packed my husband off to a hotel for a night. He didn’t want to
Go but he was so stressed and was
Being a nightmare.

Me and the kids got take out and just that one change helped a bit.

Hope some of my ramblings help.

One or other of us is away fairly often with work which can be a nice break.
What I think we really need is a break together just me and husband but no family nearby so difficult to organise

Hmm yeah. Do you have any options for childcare so you could have a weekend away?