Hi all,
Just in need of some advice.
I have a really close friend from work. We have been friends for a while and work in the same department. I see her every day.
I considered her my close friend. We used to leave work together, have lunch together and shared a lot.
She went through some difficult days and I made sure I was there for her. Personal things. She also needed help with presentations etc which I helped her with.
Anytime I went out to get lunch I would get her something too.
Things I noticed recently -
I asked for help with presentation. She said yes sure but never had time to help so I had to complete it to the best of my ability.
I told her I needed to talk to her about something and if we could meet after work she said sure. Then she said had other plans.
Arranged to talk to her over lunch but she invited others to sit with us.
I mentioned I think we are drifting and she said no it’s in your head. Nothing like that.
Over message she says lets book leave together and go away, plan a trip. When I ask her face to face she says no she isn’t going anywhere or has made other plans.
There are lots of other examples like this. I just can’t think of them now.
I think I need to accept it’s one sided. It just feels strange to drop it. I need someone out there to tell me I’m thinking right and it is one sided.
I think it’s a bit hard too because I feel like I have put so much into this friendship and it was all for nothing. Maybe it was like this right from the start and I just didn’t see at the time.
Has anyone else been in a similiar situation?