Things that would apall your grandmother?

[LunaMay]

Lighthearted - just missing my nanna thinking about this.

I was making a quick dinner while my mum was over and hovering about while chatting. The plan was some homemade chips and i grabbed a small knife and began peeling potatoes, next thing i get a playful slap on the shoulder and a reminder that my nan would have been appalled at me 'wasting so much potato' by not using a peeler.

Made me smile because i had that conversation with her plenty of times when she was still around. She never clicked on that i don't reuse teabags, that the clothes dryer wasn't just for emergencies, that i use fresh oil and dont have a frying pan in the cupboard with fat/oil older than me in it...

Yes, I a giggling because I can clearly remember my Nan taking me to the butchers shop and trying to work out the new fangled money. She had a little card from the bank with conversion rate on she kept in her shopping bag.

My Granny was quite prim and proper and gave her younger kids (my Dad was the eldest and they moved across from NI to Scotland the year he married my DM) quite a hard time as teens and young adults, especially my aunt, she was appalled at her having her ears and nose pierced and always wearing black. She was appalled at her other DS dating a shock older woman (less than a year ffs). She was a lovely Granny though, she was kind and thoughtful and much less appalled at me wearing earrings and black all the time than when my aunt had.

My Nanny though was amazing she was never appalled at anything other than people refusing an extra spud with their meal. She supported anything and anyone and didn't judge, her DH cheated on her early in their marriage and it broke her heart but they worked through it and came out stronger and she was no pushover, she would have done anything for her family. She taught me so much about so many things and I miss her every day.

Nothing at all. My gran was brilliant. She raised her children alone after her husband died young, and worked full time. She had a wicked sense of humour, an open mind, and a sharp tongue for anyone who said anything against her family. She supported my mum when she fell pregnant with me in the seventies - out of wedlock no less!! My parents did get married when I was 5 but woe betide anyone who said a bad word about my mum in my gran's presence. She lived to 98 and I still miss sitting with her nattering about anything and everything.

Milk bottle on the table.

DH sometimes puts it there and I can still see her look of horror that anyone could be so vulgar!

Wearing red. Only a certain type of woman wore red.

@HollyHocks13

I've thought of another - she would have been appalled that I don't do any ironing. She used to iron everything, even socks and pants!

Lots of memories of sitting on the floor of the lounge as a kid, watching The Bill together while nan was set up with the ironing board behind me! I was so happy when i was trusted enough to do the hankies!

DM’s mum, nana - nothing would appall her!

I suppose not saving more in high interest accounts.

Step grandma and this is in jest - not reusing stuff like wrapping paper etc.

My grandma (born 1915) was obsessed with catching a chill and damp!

Haha - this made me laugh because my granny was the same (born 1913 in a cold, damp part of Britain).

Something else that she'd be appalled by is the culture wars. She was a very proud British woman, proud of our history and traditions, proud of our national stoicism and of those who inspired the population to withstand the privations of wartime and keep going. She'd have been very angry about statues being pulled down by a baying mob and being told that as a white, British person she should 'check her privilege'. She'd have been appalled that men are allowed in women's loos, changing rooms, prisons and to compete in women's sports and that any woman who had a problem with that was called a bigot. She'd have been appalled at the rejection of human biology too and the nonsense being taught in schools about sex and gender. If she was magically brought back to life today I think she'd think the world had gone mad.

Both of my grandmothers were born in 1911 and they were amazing but very different: one a very elegant lady who nonetheless liked a drink and cigarette, the other a chatty churchgoer who knew the whole town. They were both great fun,so open minded and non-critical, and never judgemental.
I miss them both so much.

It's interesting that eating in the street was frowned upon, it's an interesting link to how obesity is directly related to constant snacking and high insulin levels.

She’d be appalled that I’d married someone from Urmston

Not wearing a hat to town

@StorminaBcup oh dear!

One was an engineer in the war, she wouldn't have been appalled by anything I do. The other was a machinist in a factory and I'm certain nothing I could come up with could top the things she heard in there. (Thursday nights in the town were called "knicker night" because the factory girls got their wages on Thursdays and went out drinking, resulting in a loss of knickers, or so she always told us!)

@dudsville

I have "my grandmother" and then the other grandmother. The other grandmother was appalled at a lot of stuff, but we weren't close.

My grandmother was not appalled at much. When she was young she rode horses bare back, used tobacco, had a whisky from time to time, played guitar, sang live on the radio, wore an adorable fancy pleated pair of shorts, gorgeous handmade clothes. She was poor but looked so glamorous. Took such great care of her skin. Her nails were always so pretty. She was an amazing cook, kitchen garden gardener, seamstress. She enjoyed cheeky humour. She just accepted me and loved me and was never critical... and, OP, she gave me a peeler about 35 years ago. It's one of my most treasured possessions! Thank you for the prompt to remember such a lovely woman.

Your "grandmother" sounds wonderful. I never knew my grandparents - I'd have loved to meet someone as lovely as yours. 🌹

My mother was appalled this week because she asked who was getting my husband's lunch while I was out (having lunch with her!) I reminded her that husband is 56 years old and more than capable of getting his own lunch.
As he does every other day of the week.

Ready made Yorkshire puddings! Tbf her technique has been passed down and now I find them v easy.

Using THE WRONG CUPS!

My grandma passed away very recently at the age of 103. She was born in 1918, married a well off landowner's son and maintained a sense of how things are done throughout her long life, despite having to flee from approaching Russian troops in 1945 with three small children in tow (and not much else) and working hard to rebuild a the family's life in the 1950 and 60s.

Drinking tea from coffee mugs (and not proper tea cups) was completely out of the question. She was a fantastic character with a sharp mind and a dry sense of humour. I really miss her now and will have some tea from a coffee mug in her honour.

Men not being ‘waited on’

Women not being ‘occupied’ at all times

The job that I have (that it’s not just a ‘little job’)

My house not being spotless

That I don’t flick Vs at people when they’re not looking often enough

The length of my daughter’s skirts. I shudder to think about what she’d say about her bikini!

My nan was fixated by laundry. She was horrified at the idea of me going back to work after having dd as how would I have time to get my washing and ironing done? As per pp, she ironed everything - towels, sheets, pants and socks!! Arriving to visit, having left home that very morning with clean clothes, the first thing she would ask is if I had anything I needed washing. I miss her so much.

Not getting dressed before breakfast.

My nannan was very easy going about quite a lot of things I think. She used to go to the pub and would play bingo there every Saturday night. She would swear (but I don't remember her ever saying fuck or anything like that). She had a great sense of humour. She had a fight with my dad's mum about how he treated my mum. She used to dye her hair jet black. I don't remember anything that would horrify her and I doubt that anything I do now would make her bat an eyelid!

How much we waste, my gran was of the wartime rationing generation and wrapping paper was carefully folded and reused, socks were darned and teabags used more than once

My gran on my dads side loved the pub, always had a couple of pints of Guinness, smoked, rouged her cheeks and lips red, and dyed her hair black. She hated housework and cooking - she'd been a singer in a bar and never the mumsy/wife type and certainly wasn't the run of the mill granny type either! When we stayed at hers it was tea and biscuits or a sugar sandwich for lunch and a plate of chips for tea 😂