Need to vent about kids entertainer

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Just came back from a kids party with my 4 year old. The guy seemed to dislike my son from the start and my son went to ask his name because he was wearing a top that was my sons favourite colour. He ignored my son and I was conscious 4 year olds can be a bit annoying so told my son to
leave him alone and play which he did.

Then they played a game called ‘crazy dancing’ where he asked the kids to crazy dance and he’d hand out sweets to the ones dancing crazily. He gave out sweets to nearly all the kids, my poor son was dancing and waiting for sweets and didn’t get any.

Then they played musical chairs. A) there were 60% 4-5 year olds and 40% 8-9 year olds. All that happened was the 4 year olds went out quickly and got upset and the older ones were pushing to get seats. B) he told the girls if they were ‘out’ at musical chairs, they could stay ‘in’ by sitting on a boys lap on a chair. When a girl tried to sit on another girls lap he said nope, either a boys lap or you’re out. What the hell kind of message is that to send??!

I really want to ask the lady what the guy was called to leave a bad review.

Yes, you definitely should! Your poor DS, hope he wasn't too hurt also the bit about sitting on boys' laps is just... ugh.

Thank you @JesusInTheCabbageVan, it was kind of you to reply. Sometimes you just need some solidarity with a vent! Yeah the rest of it I could put down to oversensitivity on my part but the boys laps was an awful thing to say!

He sounds like a creep. I would definitely ask for his name, you don't have to tell her it's to make a complaint

Leave a bad review!

I'd be murderous if someone singled my child out like that!

It sounds like poor value for money - both those games could've easily been organised by anyone - why would you pay an 'entertainer' to run musical chairs and a dancing competition?

Ah thank you all- I’m so overprotective when it comes to my son (as we all probably are), but watching him dance around hoping for sweets made mr furious. I would’ve said something there and then to him but he dropped the bag of sweets by accident and my son picked up a bag so he did get some in the end and was none the wiser. But they’re FOUR for Gods sake, none of them should have been left out.

The sitting on boys laps thing is totally unacceptable. Yuk.

The same entertainer is at another party next week for another kid in his class, we won’t be going. I agree re anyone being able to do the games, he did DJ too (so loudly we had to shout to hear each other and for some reason played nirvana between baby shark and let it go )

for some reason played nirvana

Really? Which track? I'd have thought most of them were unsuitable for four year olds.

'Load up on guns and bring your friends ...'

What a d1ck. Your poor son. Definitely leave a bad review.

Sounds really odd. I wouldn't be happy with the encouraging girls to sit on boys laps.

We went to a party a few weeks back where the entertainer seemed to have it in for everyone, even heckling latecomers and thrusting to the music! Any children who didn’t participate in his games were also pointed out which I struggled with as my son is autistic and was perfectly happy doing his own thing as he can’t handle the organised games so he didn’t need to have attention on him. This was a 6 year olds party!
Sorry that the party wasn’t great OP, your DS sounds lovely and thankfully he is none the wiser.

The girls sitting on boys laps when instructed by a man is wildly inappropriate.

@ClariceQuiff I’m not sure what song it was, he said he wanted the adults to head bang so he was going to play nirvana. I recognised the song so it must be a relatively famous one of theirs but not enough to tell you what it was called. His music was weird, he played some really appropriate songs (baby shark, let it go, Hokey Cokey etc) and then that one nirvana song and that one from a few years back, ‘I love it’ by icona pop but the one with swearing in. I’d say 80% were fine with the odd inappropriate one thrown in.

@Clickncollect I’m sorry your son went through that, it’s not fair to force anyone to participate. The only adults that participated in the headbanging were the ones whose party it was/their immediate family, everyone else felt too awkward to I think (I definitely did!) and we’re adults! For our DSs party I definitely won’t be getting an entertainer, softplay/activity centre will have to do! I hope your DS wasn’t too affected by the crap party he went to.

Children’s party entertainers can be wildly variable in quality. DS has ASD so is a bit off-centre - when we go to parties it’s always stressful to see whether the party people will deal with him well. We’ve had some brilliant experiences and some dreadful ones - the guy who curled his lip at DS when he was 4 or so stands out as a particularly awful one. On the other hand, the guy who came dressed as a Jedi for a Star Wars party was absolutely amazing, so patient and kind. It’s one of the few parties where DS really was able to join in. I could have hugged the guy!

That one you had sounds pretty bloody awful though - the lap sitting thing is a bit grim, as is singling a child out. Yuck.