Advice on ending gifts for goddaughter - is this ok

[HermioneWeasley]

My lovely and clever god daughter has just graduated and has got a job. I’m planning on saying now she’s an adult with a job then the money in birthday and Xmas cards will end, but to give her a (cash) graduation gift?

Is this normal? Tight? Reasonable?

Just send cards. No need for an announcement surely? Is she likely to ring you shouting Where's the cash bitch?

I finished gifts on my godchildren's 18th. I gave them each a relatively large amount of money with a note saying that it was for them to choose to spend it in whatever they wanted, now hat they were entering adulthood.
One bought camera equipment for a photography degree, one went teavelling (had already planned to, but used that money instead, so saved their own), one kept it towards a house deposit five years later, and one just spent it through uni.

We stopped gifts for nieces and nephews at 21. That is usual in our family and quite acceptable. Same for great-neices and nephews get a baby present and 1st Christmas and 1st birthday. It's too much otherwise.
Most people are happy with that - apart from bil who threw a stroller each birthday and Christmas and demanded a present for his ungrateful daughter and granddaughter

If she’s over 21, I would just stop. Send a card only now for celebrations including her graduation.

Threw a strop not a stroller. (Although he acted like a big baby)

When I started work I was delighted to be able to send my “goddy” gift cards and flower deliveries for her birthday. Certainly didn’t expect presents from her (although it was a wonderful treat when I was at university but more than that she’s always been a lovely kind person).

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Just send cards. No need for an announcement surely? Is she likely to ring you shouting Where's the cash bitch?

🤣 this is brilliant.

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Just send cards. No need for an announcement surely? Is she likely to ring you shouting Where's the cash bitch?

This was pretty much the text we got on Christmas day from bil. DN has never contacted us. Although he is an exception rather and I would hope ops goddaughter is far nicer and will absolutely be happy with a card

I think is good to say something (ie now you are an adult I’m going to stop the gifts ) as otherwise your god child might think they have done something to offend you

It’s totally up to you. One of my godmothers stopped giving me gifts when I started work, my godfather stopped when I was 21. My other godmother continued remembering my birthday until she died when I was 42 but she and I had a relationship that had progressed to a friendship and she was extremely generous.

My husband and I have godchildren but no children of our own. My husband has been giving them gifts for various holidays and events but soon we need to go into senior living which for 2 people will probably be 5 000usd per month. We may not be able to afford that and if wexdo it will be a sacrifice so why should he continue to spend any money on them. We need to save and he needs to get more income if he wants to continue with the gifting. I am too disabled to earn.