DD (4) is going to a state pre school. She is very social, she loves nursery and is generally a well behaved child, I never ever got anything negative about her behaviour (she used to go to a private nursery before).
Recently her teacher told me she is friends with this boy Ben (not his real name), they are always playing together, they sit next to each other and she told me we should arrange a play date as they are such good mates. We are always busy in the afternoons so the playdate hasn't happened yet, however DD always comes back home with something negative about Ben. He pushed her in the playground so she's got this big scratch on her arm, he pinched her so she had to retaliate and so on. I also got the impression from the teachers that he is full on and every day there seems to be a chat between his mum and the teachers about something he did. My DD also tells me he is the naughtiest child but she she still likes him and he is her best friend. We finally arranged a playdate next week after teacher insisting that we meet.
Today I met up with another mum for a playdate and she told me Ben is really the trouble maker in the class as she is friends with one of the teachers and her DD never wants to play with him because of his behaviour. I'm now concerned and I really don't understand why teacher has pushed for a playdate and not sure I really want Ben to be my DD's friend outside school. WWYD? I'm a first time mum so not very experienced.