School trip contact

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My son is on his first school trip where they are staying away for 2 nights. I'm sure he's having a great time but I miss him. A Mum from the class has just had a moan on facebook about a lack of contact and moaning that their son's group haven't had photos put on facebook. Basically saying the school 'haven't bothered' to put photos on of her son's group. I'm so angry. I miss my son but I really appreciate him being taken away on this trip especially after covid. Itll be great for the kids. The two teachers who have gone have left their own children for 3 days to go with the class and they just get moaned at by entitled parents like this. I bet they are really upset at these comments.

The school have put loads of photos and messages online to share what's happening. They've done more than enough. This woman used to work at the school and should know that the staff have probably worked their backsides off to plan this visit and won't have slept in days.

I'm so angry and feel like tackling her about it but I probably shouldn't should I? She thinks the world revolves around her and she's entitled to special treatment.Her kid is similar. She probably thinks he should have been allowed his own private mobile to contact her when he wanted to.

Sorry that sounds bitter. I'm just angry that she felt she should put this online for everyone to see when the school have been amazing.

It could be that one or more of the children in her sons group don’t allow photos on social media. We have to have signed permission for photos to be used in various ways these days. The year before covid our entire Y6 trip couldn’t have any photos published until after the trip when I got my hands on the photos and photoshopped half a dozen children so they couldn’t be identified. Those children also had to be removed from the Y6 production so that the usual DVD could be recorded and given to all the leavers on their last day.

Exactly.

Challenge this parent. Even worse that it is one who used to work at the school. You are not bitter one bit.

I agree 100% that photos should not be on social media.

God these people drive me mad. It’s like they only see themselves in the world. Another will be on after the trip complaining that their child came home with muddy clothes.

I didn't moan about it, but I was upset when one of mine was on the residential trip and they posted pictures of all the children sitting in their dorms except dd. I could see the dorm that she should have been in, because I recognised her duvet cover.

However, one of the reasons why I was upset was that they'd been allowed to name children to share with. Her friends were all in another class and at the last minute they'd changed it and said they had to be in the same class. So she'd been put with 3 children who had a history of not being particularly nice to her.
So I was worried about her. A photo of her in her dorm with the others would have made me feel a bit better,

I was even more put out when she got back and I found that the reason why she wasn't in that photo was because the other three had told her that they didn't want her in with them, so she spent as little time in there as possible, and most of the time reading downstairs on her own.
I felt that the teacher who took the photos, bearing in mind she was the only child to be absent from the dorm pictures, should have flagged it up to check on her.

I didn't complain, partially because they only had one month left at that school, but I did feel that the photos illustrated lack of care.

Surprisingly children went on school trips before mobile phones, Facebook etc and the children and parents managed just fine. God all this nonsense makes me feel old.

I agree with @MargaretThursday that photos (or rather lack of them or absence from them) might be a sign of some problems so I wouldn’t hurry to criticise this mum.

I should have clarified that there were pictures of her son at the breakfast table and in his dorm. Beaming smiles. This was not a sign of issues but purely her finding fault that other kids had more photos on than her son.

@Blueberryflavour

Surprisingly children went on school trips before mobile phones, Facebook etc and the children and parents managed just fine. God all this nonsense makes me feel old.

Exactly Blueberry.

I could kind of understand this from an anxiety point of view. I did once know of a parent who contacted the school during a trip because halfway through a week long trip, her dd hadn’t appeared in any of the photos posted at all so she was worried her dd wasn’t there! All was fine.

Anyhow, clearly this isn’t the case here as this lady’s ds has featured in photos and even better, looking happy. So it doesn’t seem it’s anxiety-related.

Parents like this are unfortunately one of the reasons I stopped being a scout leader.