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Confront a work bully?

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bunnunk · 17/03/2022 21:33

So there is this guy who joined last year and we have only started working together recently. He is very defensive and when we encounter an issue, instead of admitting he does not know the answer, he would turn around to say 'this is something you need to advise me'. He would also lose his temper and start raising his voice.

His manager knows about this as she was also in the meeting, but did not say anything. She even defended him before saying he is just a direct person.

This morning, it happened again and he raised his voice at me and I lost it. Made an excuse to get out of the room and literally broke down in tears. I did manage to compose myself afterwards but have been feeling really bad since then.

Would it be career limiting if I confront him directly or go to the department head for a chat? I am not going to raise any formal grievance. Or should I just let this go and avoid him going forward (which I can)?

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Navyrinse · 17/03/2022 21:50

I'd formalise it. In this case I'd ask another member of staff (witness) to join in with any further meetings, amd refuse to engage with him directly on a 1:1. He sounds like a complete bully and unfortunately (ime) men get away with being "direct" when in actual fact they are just bullying

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