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How did you give up smoking?

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TonkaTruckduck · 17/03/2022 20:28

I really enjoy smoking. I don't really want to give up, but know I must.
If you were in a similar position how did you do it, any tips?

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drawingpad · 18/03/2022 08:32

I got so drunk I was hungover for 3 days. I wasn't able to smoke and by the time I was better on day 4 I realised I didn't want one. I associated the hangover with the smoking with drink and the thought of it makes me gag to this day (it was years ago) - I don't really recommend it, but it worked for me Blush

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 18/03/2022 08:47

@TonkaTruckduck

Thank you all so much for your replies.

Champix scares me to death, I should have mentioned that. I know a friend of a friend who had a hugely adverse reaction to it and became psychotic and ended up getting sectioned, and when I looked into it it's a documented side effect Sad.

@xdownwiththissortofthingX I think most people who quit still enjoy smoking on some level, otherwise they wouldn't smoke, they'd just have stopped. I hate the way hair and clothes smell, I hate the power it has over me, I'm always wondering how and when I'll fit a smoke in. I hate the fact I can barely run 5k cos of the fags. But the moment I light up I'm in heaven, but feel shitty afterwards. So whilst I love smoking I hate being a smoker if that makes sense.

"So whilst I love smoking I hate being a smoker if that makes sense"

Absolutely.

I dare say that if smoking came with none of the drawbacks, so no health impact, low cost etc, I'd probably still smoke myself, and despite being a non-smoker for over 13 years I still sometimes find myself sitting with a post-dinner coffee, and half absent-mindedly pondering what is missing without realising I'm doing it.

I enjoyed the physical sensation of smoking and the effects of the nicotine, of course I did, why else would I have smoked in the first place if I truly didn't enjoy it? The change came when I sat down and seriously considered what the smoking was doing to me in a rational and practical sense. I was taking a significant part of my salary and literally setting it on fire, in order to do something that was antisocial, poisoning me, and ruining my long-term health. I started getting serious bronchial spasms every single time I got a cold or a sniffle, and I couldn't climb one flight of stairs without being out of breath.

It just got to the point where I realised 'this is ridiculous' and the negatives far outweighed the perceived benefits and pleasure derived from smoking. Once you are at that point it's a relatively simple process to quit because you are already armed with all the willpower you need. You are already essentially an ex-smoker, you just need to put your final one out.

I stand by what I said though. If you genuinely are still in a place where you are trying to convince yourself with statements like 'I should give up' and 'it would be good if I could give up', then no, you're honestly not at the point where you'll make much of a fist of it because it's clear you still want to smoke and just don't want to quit enough to be successful.

"I am quitting/I have quit" is a totally different mindset.

GrainOfSalt · 18/03/2022 08:53

Yes you certainly can give up smoking while you still like it/ still want to. I did but I had to go cold turkey as my stupid brain told me if I was having nicotine I might as well have the real thing. I would still like to smoke but know that if I do I will get all the old cravings back and have to go through it again. (I do wish I was one of those people that could have a couple on a night out and then no smoke again but i would be 0-20 within 24 hours 😢)

FiveShelties · 18/03/2022 09:00

My husband and I gave up at midnight on New Year's Eve many years ago. I am so competitive that I never smoked again. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done and there are there are still times when I could murder a cigarette but I will never give in.

A pack of 20 were 99pence when I gave up!

FiveShelties · 18/03/2022 09:02

I should have said I smoked 40 a day when I gave up.

guestusername · 18/03/2022 09:38

I had the super cold and couldn’t stop coughing, really really bad coughing and while smoking immediately helped ease it, it just made it worse. I went to the vape shop, picked up a vape and juice and stopped smoking the following day. I already knew I’d have to stop eventually but wanted it to be on my terms. Turns out that my body decided otherwise.

I was on 20 a day and had smoked for 30 years. I’ve been a non-smoker now for 18 weeks

KimWexlersPonyTail · 18/03/2022 09:46

I was 40 a day for 30 years. Used lozenges, saved so much money ii was able to go part time. Also retired quite early, could not have done that and been a smoker. Being a smoker also takes up so much if your time and increases stress levels. You realise that once you stop.

guestusername · 18/03/2022 10:03

@KimWexlersPonyTail I so agree with you on the time thing! I genuinely never realised just how much more time I would have. I’ve easily got another hour in the day that I didn’t have before

Crunchymum · 18/03/2022 10:43

Allen Carr. And I didn't quit, I stopped smoking.

Language is very important.

11 years soon and I've never had so much as a puff or a craving.

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 18/03/2022 10:47

Great thing about the Allen Carr book is that you're encouraged to smoke as you're reading it.

BlingLoving · 18/03/2022 10:53

@xdownwiththissortofthingX I think most people who quit still enjoy smoking on some level, otherwise they wouldn't smoke, they'd just have stopped. I hate the way hair and clothes smell, I hate the power it has over me, I'm always wondering how and when I'll fit a smoke in. I hate the fact I can barely run 5k cos of the fags. But the moment I light up I'm in heaven, but feel shitty afterwards. So whilst I love smoking I hate being a smoker if that makes sense.

I also like smoking. But like you, I hate all the stuff that goes around it - the smell, the control over my life, that it took me away from my children, that it dictated the sort of social occasions I wanted to go to etc etc.

But I do think the point made earlier is true - you have to want to NOT smoke, MORE than you want to smoke. Because stopping smoking is bloody bloody hard and you need to really really really want to do it.

It sounds to me like you are close. I wrote down a list of all the things I did not like about smoking. It helped me to get the final push.

Then make sure, once you do stop, that you revel in NOT having those things. And treat yourself in other ways (smoking, for me, was ironically, about self care. it was time I took for myself. Something I did for myself. I had to learn to replace that).

amusedbush · 18/03/2022 11:16

I vaped for ages. Then when I started WFH two years ago, I was at home all day due to quarantine and my vape was never out of my hand. I puffed away from sun-up to sun-down and I started to worry about how much I wanted it.

Then we started getting more information about Covid and I was terrified that I was shredding my lungs with vape oil and I would die if I caught it (I’m also fat, another risk factor they warned us about) so I just stopped there and then.

I still get the odd craving but I can ignore it. I really think your desire to quit has to outweigh your desire to smoke, whether it’s motivated by fear, vanity, finances - whatever.

amusedbush · 18/03/2022 11:17

Sorry, I didn’t specify - I vaped for ages to replace the fags. I didn’t just vape.

Danikm151 · 18/03/2022 12:00

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refreshingseahorse · 18/03/2022 12:04

Alan Carr book plus I developed a small replacement addiction to Nicorette microtabs. I managed to stop those about a year later.

DragonOverTheMoon · 18/03/2022 12:07

Alan Carr books work well but only if you don't emotionally smoke like me and regulate your emotions through fags. Then you gotta deal with your trauma before you can properly quit.

I'm currently using puff bars and have been for the last two weeks. I don't miss smoking, puff bars taste way nicer and I can puff them all over my house.

I was thinking about going cold turkey again but have a lot going on right now. The times I've gone cold turkey it's not been hard as I've really wanted to do it. Didn't get stroppy and one attempt lasted 5 years! I just need to find a way to regulate my emotions instead of smoking and then I can do away with the puff bar.

aylis · 18/03/2022 12:10

Cold turkey. I hated the thought of relying on something else to help me stop and having to try and break that as well. I enjoyed smoking, it wasn’t easy, but I’ve been off them for about 8 years now. I still have cravings now and then, intense but fleeting.

aylis · 18/03/2022 12:11

Oh, no tips except after about a week it does start to get easier. You just need to push through the first little while no matter what method you use

leotardrock · 18/03/2022 12:18

Alan Carr didn't work for me but I vape now!

I didn't make a big deal out of it, just thought every cigarette not smoked was a victory so probably used both for about a year but gradually the vape took over because like you I hated smelling of smoke etc!

Monkeybunkey · 18/03/2022 12:22

Switched to vapes 6 months ago. On 0.9% nicotine now (was on 1.8%) and looking to go down to 0.5% or below soon. Not even craved a cigarette although I don't think I could stop the vaping yet.

Wrinklepicker · 18/03/2022 12:23

I know a couple who quit by saying the one who smoked first had to give the other £100. Worked for them!

BertieBotts · 18/03/2022 12:23

I stretched them out and tried to make a pack last as long as possible/save them for special occasions. I was having so few by the time we decided to TTC that I could easily just stop and say it's ok, I'll be able to smoke again later.

I still feel like that actually and I last had a cigarette in November 2017. I'm sure I'll have another smoke in my life but I don't need it right now.

BertieBotts · 18/03/2022 12:24

DH switched to vaping and he still does. It doesn't appeal to me at all.

FarmaishAli · 11/01/2026 16:43

PuffStats is a free little app that makes quitting vaping a lot easier. It tracks how much you puff and how much nicotine you’re using, so you actually know where you stand. You can try it at PuffStats.com.

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