Does anyone else hate getting ‘dressed up’?

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Since I had DC I can count the number of times I’ve been out to a dressy occasion on one hand. I’m off to one this evening (work event I tried to get out of) and finding a dress that actually fits has been a humbling and frankly horrible experience. It’s a themed event which calls for a very specific style of dress. Shopping in stores was a lost cause so I ordered something from Amazon which is actually lovely but I look like a sack of potatoes. I’m size 12 but have a strange post birth figure.

I don’t have appropriate jewellery any more so look quite plain. My neighbour is a make up artist and did my make up for me and that is my only saving grace. The taxi driver who dropped me off said you look lovely (not in a creepy way) which made me tear up as I think he was being kind.

I’m in a hotel room above the venue and just want to curl up in front of crap TV with a glass of wine!

I know there are literally 100 more important things going on in the world right now but just wanted vent!

Even before I was pregnant for years before the idea of this sort of night out was quite frankly dreadful.

I like to feel put together but I hate getting dolled up, way too much effort

Meeee! It puts me off going places if I have to dress up (anything other than jeans and a jumper!).

Male perspective: yes, it's a ballache and one I don't subscribe to any more. Thankfully, the number of occasions that require smart dress are, for me, extremely rare.

I feel your pain though. All that 'dress to impress' is nonsense.

I hate it too. I don't feel like me if I'm too dressy.

I do hope you manage to enjoy your evening op.

Same here. I decline wedding invites rather than go through all of this.

I always look like a sack of spuds regardless so I hate it too !
I can sympathize, but I hope it goes off ok and the taxi driver saying that must have been nice!
I'm sure you look lovely

I literally have one dress that l feel comfortable in and thankfully it is quite versatile although only got ome pair of boots it goes with. Had it for 7 years and it has saved me on many occasions.
Hate getting dressed up....am too fat and it just reminds me of that.

Me, I like doing hair and make-up but hate dressing up, mainly because of footwear, I can't wear heels, courts, ballet flats and live in trainers, Birkenstocks and flat boots. Also I feel uncomfy in smart skirts and dresses, I much prefer jeans, casual dresses, leggings etc. An invitation with any sort of dress code makes my heart sink. I've always been like this.

I used to like it when I was younger and slimmer but now I feel fat and frumpy (I’m actually neither of those things by the way, I think I just struggle to dress my shape now!).
Dh and I went out for dinner the other night to somewhere fancy, he suggested we got all dressed up. We got there and everyone else was dressed ridiculously casual and I felt like a right dickhead, of course he was just in a shirt and trousers (standard menswear!) and I was in a glam dress and heels - everyone was in jeans - I just wanted to go home and get into bed!!!
Then this weekend just gone we miraculously had none of the dc home, he suggested dinner again. I picked the pub and said I was wearing jeans and a jumper and we blended right in, it was a brilliant night!
Op how long will the event go on for?

Me! I'm a bit of a failure for a woman as I hate make up and fashion.

I hate it and I look nice when I get dressed up so it's not that.

But I just hate it, and far prefer being at home in my leggings or jeans. When I was little I used to wish I was a boy and I still feel like a tomboy who has no wish to dress up.

I loathe dressing up, for years I worked in the 'fashion industry' and it was all so fickle and shallow - and exploited those who actually made the clothes although this was always denied. I hate the expectation that you are supposed to 'dress up' for certain occasions... I have been invited to a wedding soon and like a PP said, I have one smart dress that does for weddings, funerals and any other formal occasion - plus my 'best shoes' which are 24 years old .

I'd genuinely love to know why people enjoy dressing up, I am the same person whether I wear my old favourite black jeans or 'best dress' .

I hate the feeling of being dressed up for more than a couple of hours, but honestly I love the process of getting dressed up! I'll put some music on, have a drink, just have a bit of fun while I do my hair and makeup - even better when I have others to get ready with I lost my love for it after 2 DC but I went to stay with my in laws a few months back and my SIL really got me back into it, and we did some shopping for lovely desi clothing that are suitable for different occasions.
That said, the best part of the night is taking the makeup off.

@TheChosenTwo the event is going on until 2am but I am now safely back in my hotel room, in PJs with make up off and so relieved the night is over!

It actually wasn’t that bad but I won an award for something and had to toddle awkwardly onto the main stage which was a bit excruciating!

Most of my female colleagues who were there said they also dreaded dressing up so I felt a bit better

I loved getting dressed up when I was younger but the joy has gone for me now and as some of you have said it is all just such a faff. I love sloping around in my elasticated trousers and casual tops, lockdown was a godsend. I think this is going to be my ‘look’ forever more:)

Yess I feel so uncomfortable dressed up. It's just not me.

It's not the least bit enjoyable to me.
A load of old rigmarole for no good reason.

Congratulations on winning an award! Even though collecting it was embarrassing